(Closed) Who Kept Their Pregnancy Quiet the Longest?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Busy bee

I didn’t tell anyone with one of my pregncnies until I was 30 weeks. There was a lot going on in the family because of a terminally ill family member and I didn’t want to take the attention off of what everyone was going through. In addition, I was very seriously ill during my pregnancy and there was a very high risk of stillbirth, and I didn’t want anyone to know.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

My gf did not tell her family until 13 weeks (at her husband’s urging becuase her family thought she was really sick). She told friends 15 weeks and one friend like 25 or more weeks because it was her 30 th bday and she did want to steal her thunder so she sat at dinner with her coat on…I actually knew early on bc she came to my 30th and didn’t drink…picked up a beer but set it back down BUT I never said a word because I would not do that.

I have a few other friends were 5-6 months, it’s a religous thing…they don’t say anything until it’s obvious and people ask

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Although I will clearly not be the winner here, I waited until 13 weeks to tell anyone other than my husband (not parents, not best friends, etc) and I thought that was totally normal – until I started telling those close to us between 13 and 15 weeks, and so many people said “WHAT? 15 weeks? You waited this long to announce?!” 

Then I felt awkward… Haha. Didn’t announce to general public (ie: facebook) until 21 weeks.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

I am 16 weeks and we are trying to wait another month before telling his family and my work. We want to wait until Grandparent’s Day because this will be the first grandbaby and great-grandbaby. I am applying for a transfer at work and it’s a competitive job bid, so I don’t want them to only see baby leave as my future. I am showing IMO, and I imagine my coworkers won’t say a peep because I am a pretty big exercise buff and they won’t want to insult me if they are wrong.

My family knows because we have lots of babies on my side and I needed to know what hand me downs we would get.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I was so ill that I was basically housebound. Plus I lost so much weight that I didn’t look pregnant at all.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Mrs. Meowerson :  Orthodox Jewish women see here if you scroll down to first bullet point

http://www.chabad.org/theJewishWoman/article_cdo/aid/484409/jewish/Are-There-Jewish-Customs-for-Pregnancy-and-Birth.htm

My two best guy friends did not tell me..their parents did once they found out which was after 5 months for the now 4 grandkids they have.  When I say close I mean I’ve known them since I was 3,  grew up next door neighbors and was treated/am treated as a duaghter. I think recently one did tell his parents at 4 months..

You can see at link and elswhere there are many customs/traditions. Like my friend was not with his wife while she was in labor. She had a doula and he was off in waiting room praying

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

A good friend of mine is pregnant with her second and didn’t tell me until she was almost 22 weeks both times. I respect her right to not tell anyone but was also a little hurt that I didn’t know sooner! I saw her several times in those first few months and was shocked when she told me!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Mrs. Meowerson :  OH….I did not see or know that one! So my friends went from reform to conservative to orthodox to Chabad (SUPER orthodox) in/after college. So it’s quite incredible all the rules/practices/traditions they follow (I think their parents think some of it is too much but go along with it and even Koshered their house/kitchen for them..you know becuase one might come 1x a year and the other is in Israel so he’s come like 1x I know of).

THe younger brother will no longer hug me, as soon as he got married. His brother who is my age will still hug me. Their rule is no touching other men/women who are not your spouse/family…

There are so many other things I can’t even get into because I ramble but it’s incredible dedication

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Following. I’m not pregnant and haven’t been yet, but I definitely want to wait at least 12 weeks before I tell anyone aside from my husband. I would just to be too afraid that something would go wrong early on.

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