(Closed) Who knew shoes could cause such a fuss? (rant)

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Well first off i am sorry!! Maybe she would be ok with sandals instead of flats? also, you could always resrve part of the first row seating for your bridal party, that way, after you get to the front, they could all take a seat. Then there would be NO worries with any attention going her way! Good luck

Post # 4
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I probably bias as I’m 5’9 and certain people seem to think because of that I’m not allowed to wear heels. I doubt anyone going to be staring at your sister while you are wearing the white dress and reciting the vows. Yes some people may look at her thinks she tall but I doubt they are spend your whole ceremony gawking at her.

Personally I find the request rude and insulting because of how you approaching it. If you sister is shopping for prom it must mean she in highschhol and have a healthy self esteem if she confident enough to wear heels. 

By the way I don’t think you wrong to want people to wear matching shoes or flats, it’s just the approach I disagree with.

Post # 5
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412 posts
Helper bee

make it less about *her* height, and more about how you just want everyone in flats for cohesiveness (hello fun shoe pictures!). the last wedding i was in we had mandatory (gorgeous!) 4.5 inch matching heels for ceremony and pictures, and then optional (again, matching) flip-flops for after. unless your sister has seriously high arches and never wears flats in her daily life due to medical reasons, she should be willing to accommodate you and your vision on this. 

Post # 7
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705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It will be ok 🙂 Just stress that flats are a must for all because you want the wedding party to match accross the board for pictures and such, and then maybe involve her in picking them out, or go for something that is sparkly or has a nice detail, like a flower accent? That way maybe she will be more receptive if she is involved? Teenage girls can have their “diva” inspired moments, but it will all work out ok!

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