Post # 1
Ok, so heres the thing. Ive decided the girls get to pick their own dresses, the rules are same length and color. Im not being overly picky about anything i dont care how they wear their hair( so long as is its you know neon pink) and Im not picky on make up or jewelery so long as it ties into the theme. When we were dress shopping for the girls the other day my sister, my Maid/Matron of Honor, was asking about shoes. Now I want to wear flats cus its going to be a garden wedding and I want to be comfy. So i figured everyone can find flats that would look nice. But my sister is insisting she wants to wear heals! Shes 5’11 as is and wants to wear 3 inch heals. All of my other bridesmaids are 5’4 and Im 5’4 and my fiance is the same height as she is. I cant seem to get it through her head that shes already going to tower over everyone there and in heals shes to to be even taller. I dont want to sound…i dunno bridezilla here but when my fiance and I are standing up there reciting our vows I dont want peoples eyes to be drawn to my overly tall sister. I know people come to our wedding to see us get married but I fear that will happen =c My whole life everythings been about her, even by bridal dress shopping turned into her prom dress shoping. Im not even asking her to not wear heals at all just for the ceremony and pics n she can weat heals later. I just want this one day for me and my fiance and if she cant wear flats for the ceremony im gunna be a little disapointed to say the least.
Post # 3
Well first off i am sorry!! Maybe she would be ok with sandals instead of flats? also, you could always resrve part of the first row seating for your bridal party, that way, after you get to the front, they could all take a seat. Then there would be NO worries with any attention going her way! Good luck
Post # 4
I probably bias as I’m 5’9 and certain people seem to think because of that I’m not allowed to wear heels. I doubt anyone going to be staring at your sister while you are wearing the white dress and reciting the vows. Yes some people may look at her thinks she tall but I doubt they are spend your whole ceremony gawking at her.
Personally I find the request rude and insulting because of how you approaching it. If you sister is shopping for prom it must mean she in highschhol and have a healthy self esteem if she confident enough to wear heels.
By the way I don’t think you wrong to want people to wear matching shoes or flats, it’s just the approach I disagree with.
Post # 5
make it less about *her* height, and more about how you just want everyone in flats for cohesiveness (hello fun shoe pictures!). the last wedding i was in we had mandatory (gorgeous!) 4.5 inch matching heels for ceremony and pictures, and then optional (again, matching) flip-flops for after. unless your sister has seriously high arches and never wears flats in her daily life due to medical reasons, she should be willing to accommodate you and your vision on this.
Post # 6
@vintagefair: Thats a really good idea! i’ll see if the venue will do that for us =D
@TwoCityBride: Im not just asking her to wear flats cus shes tall, everyone is wearing flats, shes the one that wants to wear heels. I said she could wear whatever she wanted after the ceremony. Our mom doesnt like her wearing heals in general but she looks amazing in them. I dont want her to be unhappy but I dont want everyone wearing flats n just her wearing 3 inch heals. I dont get how i approached it wrong. I said that since its in a garden I figured It would be more cofterable in flats, everyone agreed except her. Im not in anyway trying to bash her self esteme by asking her to wear something more practical, and change into something she likes right after. Yes shes gradding this year and i so proud of her, On the honor roll and everything!
@starbuckslover: The funny thing is she wears flats almost everyday I see her. I guess she just wants to look good when shes standing infront of everyone ( not that i blame her) And i not sayiing shes not pretty wearing heals, shes gorgous all the time, maybe she’d just feel more confident? I dont know, i’ll have to try to take her to coffee and talk it over.
Post # 7
It will be ok 🙂 Just stress that flats are a must for all because you want the wedding party to match accross the board for pictures and such, and then maybe involve her in picking them out, or go for something that is sparkly or has a nice detail, like a flower accent? That way maybe she will be more receptive if she is involved? Teenage girls can have their “diva” inspired moments, but it will all work out ok!