Post # 1
I am new to these boards and new to pretty much everything wedding related. We are hoping to have an indian fusion wedding (as my FH is Indian). Christian ceremony, me in a indian dress (red probably!), indian cuisine..
The dilema is that we have no idea how to execute the plan so to speak. if im being completely honest, it’s a bit overwhelming.
i thank you all for the advise in advance 🙂
Post # 3
my husband is indian and we ended up having two ceremonies. our “western” one was on saturday and our “indian” one was on sunday. if you need to combine them, you could probably just research traditions for both christian and indian weddings and pick out the ones that are most important to you. like you said, you can wear the red dress, have a christian ceremony, serve indian food, but still have a first dance/parents dance, etc.
Post # 4
Thanks for the quick response. We are footing the bill entirely on our own so im highly doubting 2 seperate occasions 🙁 although that is a fantastic option.
we will do the indian dress, indian food, christian ceremony, cake cutting, dances/speeches, etc. we just don’t want it to turn into a circus act. we don’t want our guests to feel overwhelmed..
Post # 5
i don’t think it would be a circus at all! i think for the most part people like being exposed to other cultures and religions. you could probably incorporate a lot of the “indian-feel” through colors. most indian weddings are really bright and colorful. so maybe you can just find decorations in bright colors like reds, oranges, pinks and blues?
Post # 6
I would really suggest just talking to a few people from the Indian community. I promise you that they are usually so greatful to know that someone outside of their community is interested in incorporating thier customs and culture in their day. I am sure that you FI’s parents or aunties would be willing to talk to you about customs.
Also, I am not sure where in Ontario you are located but if you are in the GTA there are tons of south asian run banquet halls that are affordable and allow catering.
One thing you could do so that your guests don’t feel overwhelemed is to explain to them what is going on in the program. For instant, why are you wearing a red dress? Someone outside of that culture would have no idea why, but if you explain it in the program it will bring clarity.
Is there anything in particular you are curious about?
Post # 7
my whole thing is (and i know it sounds a bit silly) is that i know his mom would love to help 100% (both with knowledge/funds) but my FH is quite stubborn and wants to do this on our own. that’s why i love him, i guess haha. we will end up going to his mom & dad to find out more about the culture but we definitly don’t want to do any of the “religious” type stuff because 2 months after our wedding here we head to india to have a full blown indian wedding full of tradition & religion.
my dilema comes into play with this though. if i ask my FH’s mother for help, my mother (who is quite the character(rolls eyes)) is going to have a fit. Some backround on my mother, its almost as if she realized my FH was Indian the day we got engaged however we’ve been dating for 5 years prior to that day. she is envisioning me in a white dress, with rose petals everywhere (which i will admit, i thought i wanted to that!) then i started going to these wedding shows and what not and realized im completely inlove with the colours/flavours/sounds of an indian influenced wedding.
How do i make sure my mother is still a part of the wedding (willingly)?