(Closed) Who knows?

posted 8 years ago in TTC
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

A few of my friends know. A few months back my dr told me I may have endometriosis and that we needed to try to start having a baby soon. I told her after we got married. Well we’re married! I have to finish my last pack of BC and then we’re going to start trying. However I’ve been on antibiotics for 2 weeks and we’re not using any back up forms of BC. I do have one friend that I have designated as my TTC buddy. I can talk to her about how things are going and it’s helped me.

Oh…. in our vows he ended his with him wanting to be fruitful and multiply…. so everyone at our wedding knows.  Tongue Out

Post # 18
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I have told a few friends…I didn’t necessarily mean to but it came up in conversation and I have absolutely NO poker face. Plus there was wine involved and I am seriously super chatty when buzzed Foot in Mouth So obviously I’m a little superstitious and worry about what if we have issues getting pregnant (this is our first month trying). We haven’t told our families but I think everyone pretty much assumes that we are, since the few things we were waiting for (finishing school, getting jobs, essentially waiting till fall 2012) have happened. 

I also am super excited to surprise our parents with the announcement when it happens, so I don’t want them to suspect anything. Is that weird? haha, it is just one of the many things I am really looking forward to!

Post # 19
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307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Pretty much everyone knows we are trying I will be 33 next month and have been itching for kids for years! I only actively discuss it with DH and my best friend of 20+ years…

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper

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@Sigyn:  Yeah, it’s probably for the best that you didn’t tell her, I guarantee that SOMEONE would see it and it would be such an issue!!! But you could message her?? I think it’s good to have some people that you trust know so that you have a support system. Someone to vent to, if need be. Baby dust to you, as well!!!! =)

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

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@Sigyn:  I’m so sorry for your losses.. My mom is the only person I mentioned it to so I can understand how hard it would be to not have your mom there during this process:( 

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My mom and my best friend. That’s it. There are many reasons for this but a lot have to do with privacy. 

-my first reason not to be open with it is that I cannot be open with my private life. I am an actor and can’t even say I’m married or wear my wedding ring to an audition for work reasons. Not false advertising but very few casting directors will want to take a chance on someone who ‘may’ get pregnant within a year or two because family in general is looked down on in my profession and in hollywood in general. *eye roll* I’d hate to miss out on a job because I’m getting of BCP and getting back into my body’s normal cycle. It just doesn’t make sense to say anything. 

-family. DH’s family (I don’t even call them my in laws) are abusive. He has virtually no relationship with them and they are very controlling manipulative people. Even after we test positive for pregnancy I’ll most likely keep this news to ourselves for a while to enjoy it and have that time with just my husband until we’re ready to tell them anything. 

 

Other than that we mostly keep this private because it’s a special decision between DH and myself, no need to open that area up for advice when we’re not even parents yet! ๐Ÿ˜‰ I’m enjoying the privacy of being in love and making decisions about having a baby- cherishing the peace we have about this decision before the world knows there will be a mini-project in the works in the near future. I love every minute of talking about it with only my husband. It’s fun to keep it to ourselves! 

As for the people I have told, they have helped me so much already! My best friend is a med student and hopes to be with me during pregnancy and even when our baby is born. Also, I can talk to my mom about anything. It’s great to have a tiny support system because as I’ve already seen making life-changing baby decisions is already stressful. It’s good to know the people closest to me know about it and can be excited with me. 

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