Post # 17
A few of my friends know. A few months back my dr told me I may have endometriosis and that we needed to try to start having a baby soon. I told her after we got married. Well we’re married! I have to finish my last pack of BC and then we’re going to start trying. However I’ve been on antibiotics for 2 weeks and we’re not using any back up forms of BC. I do have one friend that I have designated as my TTC buddy. I can talk to her about how things are going and it’s helped me.
Oh…. in our vows he ended his with him wanting to be fruitful and multiply…. so everyone at our wedding knows.
Post # 18
I have told a few friends…I didn’t necessarily mean to but it came up in conversation and I have absolutely NO poker face. Plus there was wine involved and I am seriously super chatty when buzzed So obviously I’m a little superstitious and worry about what if we have issues getting pregnant (this is our first month trying). We haven’t told our families but I think everyone pretty much assumes that we are, since the few things we were waiting for (finishing school, getting jobs, essentially waiting till fall 2012) have happened.
I also am super excited to surprise our parents with the announcement when it happens, so I don’t want them to suspect anything. Is that weird? haha, it is just one of the many things I am really looking forward to!
Post # 19
Pretty much everyone knows we are trying I will be 33 next month and have been itching for kids for years! I only actively discuss it with DH and my best friend of 20+ years…
Post # 20
I understand! I had a few friends who got pregnant while in high school and many more who got married and got pregnant right after graduation. I’m a late starter in life, finding my soul mate and having some very sad losses. I really just don’t want them feeling sorry for me.. that’s why we also decided not to tell anyone when we do get pregnant until second trimester.
LOL that’s right! fruitful would be best! I’m sorry to hear about your diagnosis, it’s a struggle. I wish you the best in your journey!!
No not weird at all! I am with you! I already have a few ideas in my head how I would announce it to everyone hehe I’m an only child and I only have my dad left (with my grandma and wunt and uncle) My SO has his dad and step mom and abunch of aunt and uncles and cousins lol but he is his fathers only child 🙂 I think his family has been waiting a long time for him to settle down and have kids. Most of his cousins all have older children 9-13.
Oh! Well Happy Early Birthday!!! I’ve been wanting children for years too, just haven’t found the right guy until a few years ago and now we are officially TTC 🙂 Good Luck!!!!
Post # 21
Yeah, it’s probably for the best that you didn’t tell her, I guarantee that SOMEONE would see it and it would be such an issue!!! But you could message her?? I think it’s good to have some
people that you trust know so that you have a support system. Someone to vent to, if need be. Baby dust to you, as well!!!! =)
Post # 22
Thanks! I was thinking of telling a friend I talk to a lot, but she is the bitter type of girl when it comes to relationships/babies.. *sigh* I actually was thinking that if I did get pregnant, I would feel bad telling her. I’m sure she would be happy for me though 🙂 Thanks again for your advice 🙂
Post # 23
I’m so sorry for your losses.. My mom is the only person I mentioned it to so I can understand how hard it would be to not have your mom there during this process:(
Post # 24
My mom and my best friend. That’s it. There are many reasons for this but a lot have to do with privacy.
-my first reason not to be open with it is that I cannot be open with my private life. I am an actor and can’t even say I’m married or wear my wedding ring to an audition for work reasons. Not false advertising but very few casting directors will want to take a chance on someone who ‘may’ get pregnant within a year or two because family in general is looked down on in my profession and in hollywood in general. *eye roll* I’d hate to miss out on a job because I’m getting of BCP and getting back into my body’s normal cycle. It just doesn’t make sense to say anything.
-family. DH’s family (I don’t even call them my in laws) are abusive. He has virtually no relationship with them and they are very controlling manipulative people. Even after we test positive for pregnancy I’ll most likely keep this news to ourselves for a while to enjoy it and have that time with just my husband until we’re ready to tell them anything.
Other than that we mostly keep this private because it’s a special decision between DH and myself, no need to open that area up for advice when we’re not even parents yet! 😉 I’m enjoying the privacy of being in love and making decisions about having a baby- cherishing the peace we have about this decision before the world knows there will be a mini-project in the works in the near future. I love every minute of talking about it with only my husband. It’s fun to keep it to ourselves!
As for the people I have told, they have helped me so much already! My best friend is a med student and hopes to be with me during pregnancy and even when our baby is born. Also, I can talk to my mom about anything. It’s great to have a tiny support system because as I’ve already seen making life-changing baby decisions is already stressful. It’s good to know the people closest to me know about it and can be excited with me.