Post # 1
We want a family, but we have no house. We are very financially stable, just not in the right place to purchase a house as we know we will be moving after 1 more year here. This has kind of deflated our hopes to TTC sooner than later just because I have this image of a cute little house with a nursery and plenty of space for our small family. “When we have a house” has been our mantra. But perhaps when we do make the move we could find ourselves renting again!
Does anyone share the same “when we have a house” philosophy that seems to be stalling TTC efforts?
I’m MOST concerned, that TTC could be a nightmare and we will have wished to have tried sooner…but then I’m scared that we’d try next month and ta-da, preggo! That I would NOT be ready for!
Is it always this complicated, or was the decision very CLEAR and PERFECT for you at the point in your life when you decided to try?
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@tampalove35: We will most likely be TTC while living in an apartment next year. Babies don’t care where you live and plenty of them live in apartments. I lived in a travel trailer the first few years of my life. What little I remember of it was good because my family was really close then. Even if you get pregnant now, you have 9 months of gestation and then the baby will most likely be in your room with you for the first few months. If TTC is where you are at right now then it’s time to TTC, everyhting else will fall into place when it’s meant to happen.
Post # 4
We live in a 1-bedroom apartment with our new baby. We will probably always live in a small apartment. It never occurred to me to delay TTC because of this.
Post # 5
@beachbride1216: Babies don’t care where you live and plenty of them live in apartments.
I completely agree.
My parents lived in an apt until I was 14, and even after that, we rented an apt in the states too.
What exactly does having a house make it a better environment for a kid? The backyard? There are endless parks for that.
Also, we are undecided on the kid factor, we bought a house because we didn’t want to waste money renting. If I were to want a baby, I would look at my finances & job stability.
Post # 6
It’s nice to have a house, but I don’t think it’s strictly necessary when you’re TTC. My SO grew up in an apartment (family of 4) and turned out just fine. I think I’d only feel a stronger need for a house when I expect my second – it’d be nice to have more space!
Post # 7
I voted yes,but I wanted to clarify – I don’t actually need to own a house when I have my first baby, but to be totally comfortable with it,I need to know tht it’s in the very near future… like, I don’t want to TTC until I know we’re within a year of buying a house.
We’ve struggled enough with finances and when I finish school next year I’ll hopefully find a job and then we can buy a house. I don’t want to be 30 and living with a baby in a 1 bedroom basement apartment… no thanks.
So it needs to be in the immediate future for me
Post # 8
@tampalove35: I had the whole ‘need a house’ mantra but have since changed. I realized that babies are super portable. You really only need need a few things when they are infants. We’re in an apartment now and will hopefully be in a house by next summer. We are TTC starting in March/April so hopefully the house plan works out but if it doesn’t I’m now cool with having a kiddo here. You just have to really minimize the amount of stuff!! (It is a little annoying to still have bridal shower things from last December still in my parents basement but unfortunately apartments have no space for stand mixers LOl)
Post # 9
@tampalove35: We live in an apt (just sold my condo) and have no plans to buy a house until our future children go to school. We do live in the city and having kids in a condo/apt is the norm.
Post # 10
Thanks for all the great responses– being minimalistic will be good for our lives anyways… it’s strange that I have the desire to own a house first, seeing I grew up in at apt. until age 3, but the silly things like painting a nursery mural make me just a little bit sad. Damn you pinterest.
@SeaTurtle88: Gah, I hear you! My entryway is full of gifts in boxes that need to be carted to my parents basement…
Post # 11
I used to be that way…until reality hit. Darling Husband is in school and we don’t want to buy a house until he graduates and we have a better idea of where we’ll be. And, if we wait to TTC until he graduates, I’ll probably be 37…yeah….don’t think I should be waiting that long. lol Apartment baby makin it will be.
Post # 12
@tampalove35: We live in an apartment and having a baby..with plans to have another in the near future. I actually perfer it this way. Although the kids will share a room, I see no problem with it and my daughter has an adorable nursery. Buying a house just isn’t in the cards for us in the near future and I didn’t feel it was essential to having a baby (or two) Having the apartment, comes with a huge pool that my toddler throughly enjoys.
Post # 13
We live outside of NYC where houses are astronomically expensive and we know that almost every baby born in NYC lives in an apartment and they turn out just fine (both sets of my cousins spent their entire lives in apartments in NYC, while I grew up in a house in the ‘burbs). Also, it doesn’t matter where you live with a baby, renting or owning, until the baby is 5 and going to school anyway. Then you want to make sure you’re in a good school district. But still, you can RENT in a good school district. I don’t see a house as necessary for having a child at all. Nice, yes. Necessary, nope.
Post # 14
We are currently TTC, living in a 1-bedroom apartment. The price range of houses we can afford at this point in our lives (we’re 25 and 28) are typically found in a less-than-stellar school district. We’re comfortable in our current city (great schools), so if that means continuing to rent (eventually we’ll upgrade to a 2-bedroom if and when I get pregnant), then sobeit! Growing up I used to think owning a home was an absolute requirement prior to TTC. Not so much anymore!
Post # 15
i really don’t want to have a baby until we own a house.
BUT this goes hand in hand with us living in an apartment right now and not being financially stable enough to take on a baby. we’re still saving and working on a downpayment, then we’d like to buy a house and get settled in nicely… THEN a baby.
i think in your case it is more than fine to have a baby right now 🙂
Post # 16
The last kids in apartments or was it kids needing their own room thread, didn’t go so well if I recall LOL. As I said in that thread, shelter is essential for children, the “type” IMO not so much. As long as your emotionally ready for child and have a clean, stable enviorment, that to me is what is far more important. It’s not say that having a house shouldn’t be goal, but I would never hold up my TTC goals based on the house type alone. It’s kinda like someone saying “Oh you need to live in 2,500 sq foot house at minimum or else, their childhood will be awful.” Like, really??