Post # 1
Short vent here. I have a family member that will be invited to the wedding (invitations haven’t gone out yet). Anyway, the shower is coming up and I recently found out that she has indicated that she expects to sit next to certain people there. Wtf? She has been vocal about things she disagrees with regarding the wedding (location, decor, etc.) and I just brush it off. But, seriously, since when did it become ok for people to tell you where they want to sit? Or how to decorate the room? Or what city is ok for them?
I don’t talk to her, but my parents do and all this gets back to me. They are excited about the wedding and want to share fun details with family members so I can’t really make them stop.
Anyway, I am not freaking out or worried about her opinions of stuff, but wanted to share and was just wondering if you have had similar experiences with guests who really overstep the guest-host line?
Post # 3
I think it has become a societal thing to say anything and everything that is on your mind regardless of how offensive it could be deemed. Then, when confronted they throw their arms up and say “what? I am just being honest/stating my opinion”
Post # 4
Ask your parents to quit telling you all of her comments. It serves no purpose, you can’t do anything about it, and you don’t need to cater to her in the manner she demands. Ask them to just stop telling you.
Post # 5
@suburbian: Right? I shared b/c I have seen some many posts about people adding guests and basically acting like the event is thrown in their honor. I can’t believe that so many people lack tact.
@hermom: I know. Luckily, I don’t really care what she “demands” and I can laugh it off. I thought I would share to see if others experience the same. But I have talked to them about how sharing every little detail opens the event up for high expectations (and therefore being underwhelmed) and that it takes away a special feeling that people get when they walk into a nice, fancy reception since they are already expecting everything there.
Side note: she is easy to ignore b/c one of her first demands when I got engaged was that we not have our wedding in the city (excuse me!). I am an urban planning grad student and my fiancee and I both love the city. She threatened not to come (as did a few other family members). My parents thought I would back down so that my family would all be happy but I held my ground and said it was just one fewer person to feed. As far as I know they will all be attending and if they choose not to that is fine, too.