Post # 1
I know it’s not meant to be a competition, (and I’m looking forward to merging my finances with my fiance and sharing "our money")–but is there any contention between you and your SO about the amount of money either of you makes?
I make more than FH because I’m employed full time and he is a full time student working a part-time job. It’ll be this way for the next three years, but when he starts working I imagine, we’ll be close to the same .
Neither of us minds at all…we’re just in different stages of life! (I will probably stay home when we have kids, until they’re all in school)
Post # 3
My FH is not the jealous type and he could careless who makes more, but there are times when I ask his opinion about the wedding and he does tell me that since I am paying for the majority of the wedding that I do have the final say. Sometimes when I want something a certain way I love that answer but there are times that I am stuck between to choices and I wish he would let me know.
Post # 4
Right now my husband makes more. But once I finish my post-doc and get a real job, I will probably (hopefully!) make more than him. It doesn’t make any waves in our relationship. We are very similar in how we handle finances. I think if one was a spender and the other a saver it might be a problem
Post # 5
I did make about 10k more a year until I quit my job (long story). I’m looking for work but probably won’t go back until after the wedding.
Post # 6
Well… we’re both graduate students, so neither of us is exactly ‘rolling in it’. But technically, I have more grant money than he does right now. Once we’re both working in our field, though, I suspect he’ll be the one making more money.
Post # 7
I make more, and it does cause some issues, mostly with me. Fiance has no problem sharing his money, but I do sometimes feel resentful when sharing mine. The hard part is, I have never been a "saver" and he always has. We are trying to save for a house and he is much better at it than I am, and he sometimes seems critical when I spend money on myself, which makes me feel badly because I feel like "I make more I should be able to spend it!" But….I need to just get over it.
Post # 8
He graduated with a what we call a real job first — so he makes more. But I won’t be far behind!! I hope to one day make more 🙂
Post # 9
He definitely makes more … it is mostly based on the specialty of his major in college/career choice … but I also totally admit that he is much more driven then I am in regards to career. I am really happy with where I am right now and I am aware that my profession just isn’t an extremely lucrative profession.
Post # 10
He currently makes about $7k more than I do but based on the fact that I am 6 years younger than him and am a recent college grad I will probably make more one day based on my career – unless he finds a job in Finance like he graduated with.
Post # 11
He makes more, and by a lot! He probably always will, too, because that’s just how it works in his career versus mine…but it’s no big deal to either of us.
Post # 12
I make more than he does because I’m working full-time and he’s a grad student. But I put away 50% of my pay for our house fund, and I have way more expenses than him, so he tends to pay for more. It works out – the less I spend on taking us out to dinner, etc., the more money we have banked for our house. We don’t fight about money.
Post # 13
He makes 8.50/hr and I make 9/hr plus about 2/hr in tips on average. I can’t technically say I make more since sometimes he get more hours than I do and what not!!!
Post # 14
i make more but his workplace is much more flexible with time so he usually works a 4 day week
i work longer hours than he does (inc weekends and midnight conference calls when needed), his office never knows when he is going to show up or not and he can work from home whenever the mood takes him.
his salary is the responible household, bills & investment stuff and my salary is the fun/holidays/toys stuff – either way, we’re not hurting and i recognize that as a blessing
Post # 15
He makes a few thousand dollars a year more than me right now, but that amount will probably increase when I find a new job closer to home.
Post # 16
It’s funny, we switched places. When we met I was in school and he was making a lot more; we made about the same for a year, and now he’s with a startup– really happy but making a lot less.