Post # 1
So we’re not having a bridal party for a multitude of reasons. There are too many women in my life to choose just 3 or 4 and the Fiance just has more female friends than male friends. We both have brothers (who we’re close with but not best man close) and so we’ve decided just not to have a bridal party. We are having a flower girl/ring bearer but they clearly won’t be making the toasts. Should we specifically ask people to make toasts at the reception, or just open up the floor to anyone who wants to? I’m torn but think maybe we should ask our parents and then perhaps a friend or two who know us best as a couple? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!
Post # 3
I would see if your parents are interested in speaking. I know mine will want the opportunity to say something. Also, if you just open it up to whoever is willing on that day, you might end up with no speech because it’s hard to come up with something to say on the spot. I would arrange something in advance with your parents or close friend(s) ahead of time. If you want to open up the floor to others after a planned speech, that would probably be fine too.
Post # 4
I attended a wedding that the best man and the Maid/Matron of Honor made a toast, then they passed the microphone around. Some tables pushed the microphone around until someone gave in, but the others who took the microphone really had heartfelt things to say about the bride or groom because some of them knew them since they were a child. I don’t think those speeches were planned, but it all came from the heart, so I don’t think it was hard for the guests to do.
Post # 5
oooo i wouldn’t pass the mic around – what if everyone wanted to give their two cents? i hate going to weddings where there are a gazillion speeches.
Is there anyone who has known you both through the duration of your relationship who can add a testament to your love? Or, is there anyone who does public speaking or creative writing for a living who could write a beautiful toast?
Post # 6
I would ask two people to give toasts. Just something short and sweet, but they will be relieved to have a time to compose something ahead of time. Otherwise people may feel put on the spot. Unless of course you don’t mind not having toasts at all, in which case you can probably skip it. Don’t pass the mike around, having a million ill prepared speeches isn’t fun for anyone (including you) to listen to.
Post # 7
I would think the FOB would be the best choice.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
I would say your parents or any close family members. Not too many, but maybe just 1-3 people with prepared speeches. 🙂
Or you guys as well?
I’m kind of a speech newb. :p