- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
Background: We are getting married in Sept. Still plenty of time to go but I want to start thinking about details because my job will get insanely busy (80ish hour weeks) in August and Sept. We are having a Saturday morning wedding followed by a 3 hour brunch reception. We are inviting just over 200 people, including about 20-30 kids and most (60-70%) will be traveling from at least a few hours away, including us.
We want to find a way to spend more time with people because we’ve noticed that the biggest complaint about weddings we’ve been to recently has been, “we came all this way and then felt like we barely got to see the bride and groom.” We thought we would have an after party. My parents have a big back yard, we figured we could get a few kegs of beer, a few port-a-potties and some burgers & hot dogs. Super simple. My parents have expressed that they think the persons limit should be about 60-70 at one time.
We thought we could do 2 groups: family and friends. Friends on Saturday evening and family on Sunday afternoon. The thing is if we did this we wouldn’t be able to invite everyone. We were thinking of leaving out FIs cousins, his not super close friends and people from my church. I think that we are not obligated to host everyone for the entire weekend but FI thinks that if we do an after party we need to invite everyone who is invited to the wedding.
If you were one of the guests that got left off the after party list, would you be offended? To be fair, FIs cousins who would be left off could be invited to the rehearsal dinner if his parents were adamant about including them.
In a different but somewhat related question: my sister has 6 kids who will all be in the wedding party. All if them are under 10. Do my future in laws need to invite all the kids to the rehearsal dinner or is it acceptable to just invite my sister and her husband.