Who NOT to choose as a bridesmaid…

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

haha. Love this

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Anyone you have a gut feeling against….

I hate seeing ladies feel obligated to have anyone. You make a great point about relatives, the jealously can seriously ruin things. Same goes for his family members. I feel like lots of ladies are pressured to have the fiances sisters. If they’re not your BFF’s then dont’ include them, honor them in another way such as a reading.

 

Your ladies should be your closest friends who you feel 100% about.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MissTurtle27:  Agreed, I have a cousin who I will not be using because she hasn’t been that great to me, so that I understand.  My mother was trying to put pressure on me to do it and I said no it is ingenuine to include anyone who I don’t feel 100% about.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

LOVE IT! I am having ONE bridesmaid whom is a friend from highschool πŸ™‚ everyone else can suck it up princess lol

 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Haha, this list seems to sum up most of the “bridesmaid drama” posts on the Bee!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

oh, i have to add another… the person you ask to even out the numbers. Make your list, have him make his, if the numbers don’t match SERIOUSLY think long and hard about either side adding people just to get your numbers to be the same on each side. 

I had 2 more than my husband. He had two college friends that he “could” ask but was worried about them being flaky. I told him I didn’t care if we had uneven sides with 5 &7. Glad he didn’t because one of the guys got mad he wasn’t a groomsman and eneded up coming up with a lame excuse to not attend our wedding… Darling Husband was glad he wasn’t a groomsman because his 5 he did ask wouldn’t dare have acted so childish had they not been asked!

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I feel the cousin thing.  I chose one of my cousins that I was really close, and felt pressured by my mom to include two others.  They were completely uninterested and didn’t even want to be in the wedding.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’ll add one more that seems to cause a lot of drama:

The friend you used to be super close to, but have since drifted apart from.

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

@VAwife:  I second that,I have a friend who is the definition of this. and I have that “gut feeling” not to include her. I know it would be a horror story from the start

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper

The girl who you’re no longer close to, but you were in HER wedding 3 years ago so you have to ask her, right?

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@VAwife:  I am trying to decide if I should do this or not.. I have a best friend who I grew up with and we still call eachother best friends but she has not really made an effort with me and is always backing out of plans. When she needs me she says I am her best friend.. She even brought up the other day how excited she was to be in my wedding party when I get engaged (soon!) .. I just dont know how to tell her no. Did you include the old best friend that you drifted from in yourwedding party?

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