Post # 1
this came up in a silly chat with my two ridiculously awesome biffle sisters from other misters bridesmaids while discussing bridal shitshows.
Add to the list 🙂
– your sister…who you have been competing with literally since she was a fetus, who would probably rather douse herself in gasoline than be genuinely happy to plan your shower, and who you are fairly certain is hoping your fiance stands you up at the alter
– that friend who you secretly hate because she looks like effing Charlize Theron even when she’s rolling out of bed with a hangover and wearing a lycra track suit….and knows it.
– the frenemy you constantly talk shit about, who you know constantly talks shit about you, too… but when you’re together you still hug and act like you’re bffs but then roll your eyes the second she turns her head
– your cousin, who you haven’t spent more than 20 minutes with her since you were 10, but your aunt has been harassing your mom about it since the second your engagement ring was on
– your dad’s (latest) new girlfriend’s daughter, who already picked out a giant pink princess dress with a tiara before you mentioned anything about including her in the wedding.
Post # 4
Anyone you have a gut feeling against….
I hate seeing ladies feel obligated to have anyone. You make a great point about relatives, the jealously can seriously ruin things. Same goes for his family members. I feel like lots of ladies are pressured to have the fiances sisters. If they’re not your BFF’s then dont’ include them, honor them in another way such as a reading.
Your ladies should be your closest friends who you feel 100% about.
Post # 5
@MissTurtle27: Agreed, I have a cousin who I will not be using because she hasn’t been that great to me, so that I understand. My mother was trying to put pressure on me to do it and I said no it is ingenuine to include anyone who I don’t feel 100% about.
Post # 6
LOVE IT! I am having ONE bridesmaid whom is a friend from highschool 🙂 everyone else can suck it up princess lol
Post # 7
Haha, this list seems to sum up most of the “bridesmaid drama” posts on the Bee!
Post # 8
oh, i have to add another… the person you ask to even out the numbers. Make your list, have him make his, if the numbers don’t match SERIOUSLY think long and hard about either side adding people just to get your numbers to be the same on each side.
I had 2 more than my husband. He had two college friends that he “could” ask but was worried about them being flaky. I told him I didn’t care if we had uneven sides with 5 &7. Glad he didn’t because one of the guys got mad he wasn’t a groomsman and eneded up coming up with a lame excuse to not attend our wedding… Darling Husband was glad he wasn’t a groomsman because his 5 he did ask wouldn’t dare have acted so childish had they not been asked!
Post # 9
I feel the cousin thing. I chose one of my cousins that I was really close, and felt pressured by my mom to include two others. They were completely uninterested and didn’t even want to be in the wedding.
Post # 10
@MissTurtle27: ohhh man, SO this. If you choose a person just to even out the numbers, the reason you didn’t choose them from the get-go is BOUND to rear its ugly head at some point in the planning process 😛
I also should have included the one that actually happened to me – though it still doesn’t seem funny – Im sure it will eventually, which is “the one who has a party at your house when you’re on vacation, lets people drink your booze, eat your food, leave a mess in your kitchen, breaks your furniture, and then doesn’t apologize”
Post # 11
I’ll add one more that seems to cause a lot of drama:
The friend you used to be super close to, but have since drifted apart from.
Post # 12
@VAwife: I second that,I have a friend who is the definition of this. and I have that “gut feeling” not to include her. I know it would be a horror story from the start
Post # 13
@VAwife: yeah that right there is probablt 50% of bridesmaid drama posts.
Post # 14
The girl who you’re no longer close to, but you were in HER wedding 3 years ago so you have to ask her, right?
Post # 15
@VAwife: I am trying to decide if I should do this or not.. I have a best friend who I grew up with and we still call eachother best friends but she has not really made an effort with me and is always backing out of plans. When she needs me she says I am her best friend.. She even brought up the other day how excited she was to be in my wedding party when I get engaged (soon!) .. I just dont know how to tell her no. Did you include the old best friend that you drifted from in yourwedding party?
Post # 16
@Seashells7: man, thats a tough one. I’d say if you’re prepared for and okay with having the friendship end, you shouldnt feel pressured to ask her. If you’re not quite ready for the frienship to be officially over, you’re probably going to end up feeling the need to ask her. You’ll see her true colors either way… maybe in a good way though?