Who paid for the wedding?

posted 11 months ago in Venue
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

My exH and I paid for our wedding.  We were gifted some money from both sides at the wedding, but it was our responsibility.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

We are paying for our wedding ourselves. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

When we started planning, my fiance and i expected to foot the bill entirely. My mom and dad both gave us a good sum towards it (works out to about 20 percent) and ended up surprising me by paying for my dress (literally at the dress shop wearing the dress when my mom told me!). My parents also threw us a very nice engagement party and almost everyone came with an envelope so  that was an unexpected help towards some of the costs as well. His side isnt contributing, but paid for his sisters whole wedding, so i believe they are going by the old tradition that brides side pays. Our wedding is more expensive than i would have liked however we ended up booking expensive venue and are paying for it out of profits we made off of selling our renovated house and we budgeted for almost everything we are doing so we wont be out of pocket. 

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We paid for everything ourselves

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

My ex and I paid for our very elegant wedding and my Fiance and I will pay for our (hopefully very small) wedding if I still can’t convince him to elope. cool

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Total cost was about 45K for 80 people at a Southern California vineyard, including honeymoon to Maui. 

15K from my mom

15K from my savings / salary

5K from my husbands CD account from a car accident

Remaining 10K on a credit card, paid off in less than 1 year. 

On top of that, our hotel in Maui was paid about 90% by Marriott points so that helped immensely. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

we are paying for it ourselves

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

We are paying for everything ourselves.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

We are splitting it 3 ways. Fiance and I are paying about 35% of the total cost, my parents are paying for about 50%, and FI’s Family is paying for the open bar and rehearsal dinner, which I’m estimating to be the last 10-15%.

Our total budget is about $50,000 including the honeymoon. We have invited 125 guests and the wedding will take place at a mountain resort. 

Fiance and I are paying for wedding dress and suit, rings, hair/makeup, honeymoon, stationary, table decorations, sineage, DJ/music, wedding planner, gifts, and accommodations for 3 nights, including the wedding night.  

My parents are covering the venue, flowers, catering, rentals, and transportation primarily. 

 

We we are having a 13 month engagement and delaying the honeymoon a few months after the wedding in order to allow for time to save money and space out large payments. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

We paid for our wedding ourselves. We planned on footing the bill entirely ourselves but his parents gifted us some money. My mom paid for my wedding dress.  I don’t know how much it ends up equaling percentage but it was a smaller percentage of the overall cost. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

100% us. 

If budget is the concern, going informal will help the most. Ours is going to be about 2k. If I had a similar event at a more formal venue it would be about 10k. There are other things we aren’t going to doing, but venue was the biggest price difference. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

My parents are paying; they set a budget but we are staying well below that by having a very low-key celebration. If we had decided to have the big to-do, then we would have covered anything over budget. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

We are paying for everything ourselves. Ours will be ~100 people at a country club.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

My parents graciously have offered to mostly pay. Between the two of them (they are divorced) they offered 15k, which also includes my mom doing the flowers. I’m trying to keep costs as low as possible, but we will cover anything that goes over that budget. FH said he wants to pay the honeymoon and his mom has offered to pay for his suit. I bought my dress, as my parents are being so helpful with everything else.

The wedding won’t be particularly fancy, but maybe a level of formality up from a backyard or park. I actually was really thinking about a park, but it would have been so much more stressful to bring everything in, and my parents really liked the more expensive venue (4.5k) so there ya go. 

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