(Closed) Who Paid for your Ering?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 106
2690 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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zzar45 : I read your response – I just don’t agree with what you’re saying, and I’ve already politely explained why more than once. 

I think that you’re enjoying inciting unnecessary drama on what should be a fun and harmless ring thread (I say this because you never even replied to OP’s question or participated in any positive way before going on the attack).

You don’t agree with or like her opinion. Got it. Got it x1000%. It’s time to get over it now. And I guess saying that makes me rude too, but, oh well. 😂




Post # 107
111 posts
Blushing bee

We each paid for our own engagement rings, and split the wedding bands. My taste in erings is MUCH more expensive than hers, so this seemed fair and worked well for us. 

Post # 108
516 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

He did 

Post # 109
1369 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Holy cow, this thread went south.  You folks need to lighten up! 

He paid for both my rings, I will pay for his band

Post # 110
1359 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

Him, but I am buying wedding bands.

My parents are also gifting a separate engagement ring to him because we are also having a traditional Indian engagement ceremony in September.

So I guess in the end it kind of equals out? I will also be contributing a lot more than him on wedding costs because he cares more about saving for a house than a wedding.

Post # 111
1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

He (my fiancé) paid for my engagement ring.  He had been saving for a long time and I know he wanted it to come from him.  I helped in the process though – I selected 5 rings I would love so he had the solace of knowing my preferences were involved.  Felt like a joint decision to get married that way! 

My parents are helping with half the cost of the wedding, but the other half is coming from us.  Our contributions include paying for our wedding bands.  Because we are paying for our half of the wedding 50/50, I suppose we are both paying for each other’s bands? 😊

Post # 112
4888 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

DH paid for my e-ring. However, I paid for the additional band we got for it. It originally came with the e-ring and a wedding band but we liked the idea of having 3 bands total.

I also paid for his wedding ring, and his extra wedding ring (which was MUCH cheaper).

Post # 113
1425 posts
Bumble bee

Fiance paid for mine and I paid for his. Mine ended up being about twice as expensive, but I think I made up for that by getting him an even more expensive laptop (our rings were about $830 together and the laptop was about $900). Plus we joined our accounts about a month after getting engaged. So anything spent ended up coming out of our (eventual) joint savings. I think it’s important to find what works for you as a couple. I personally believe in the ‘one pot’ mentality about money – meaning everything we earn goes into one big pot that we share. So it doesn’t matter who buys things because the money is joint.

The ring is still sentimental to me (even though I picked it out and we share bank accounts) because of the style we picked out (the colors are symblic to us), the sweetest engraving he chose on the inside, and because this is the ring he gave me before we told friends and family that we were engaged (we got engaged without rings and kept it to ourselves until we got the rings).

Post # 114
92 posts
Worker bee

He is paying for it. I offered to help with paying for a ring when we had our initial “marriage” talk a while back and he adamantly refused. It’s a pride thing I suppose. lol. I haven’t gotten it yet though. 

How the ring is paid for is really dependent on the couple and their personal values, preferences, and budgets. In the end, it truly doesn’t matter. You both have made the decision to commit to each other and you have chosen to make the ring(s) a symbol of that, which is beautiful. Many women like to be involved in the ring process by picking it out, designing it, and even being there when it is purchased. Others are completely surprised. Everyone’s experiences will be unique, that’s the beauty of it.

Post # 115
976 posts
Busy bee

He’s paying for it all by himself because he insisted on it. However, I don’t think in this day and age there has to be any “rule” about who pays for what.

Post # 116
481 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019 - Southampton, UK

He paid for my engagement ring.

We will buy each others’ wedding bands.

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