(Closed) Who Paid For Your Flowergirl Dress?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who Paid?

    FI and I


  • Post # 3
    3372 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I offered to pay, but her mom (my MOH) insisted that she pay. When I was planning to pay I had my sights set on a dress that was near $300. Since Maid/Matron of Honor is paying we are going with one that is around $80. I would never expect her to pay that amount for a kid’s dress.

    Post # 4
    27 posts
    • Wedding: September 2014

    The parents are to pay for it just like the bridesmaids pay for their dresses.  Most flower girl dresses are fairly reasonable.  Around $79-$130.  Just be sure to let the mother know what style you want if she has to go and get it herself.  It’s always nice to bring/invite the flower girl in with you to the fittings and such if possible.  My girls have been in weddings but one time the bride just said pick out whatever and I didn’t even know what her dress looked like and felt lost.  I didn’t know how she wanted my daughters hair or what her wedding theme was even so make sure to communicate that with the Mother of the flower girl.


    Best wishes on the road to your big day!!!

    Post # 5
    7439 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Etiquette Snob here… lol

    Traditionally the Wedding Attire for the children in the Ceremony is paid for by their Parents.

    BUT a great many feel that that can be an extra large burden on the family… especially so if the children are not related directly to you (such as a niece, nephew etc)

    Because ultimately those kiddies are going to have to be outfitted, and their Parents are going to bring them along to the Wedding… which means they too will have to dress up, and buy you a gift.  And if they have other children… then it is only right that you also invite those children along as well.

    So… many B&Gs decide that to make things easier (the pure joy of having little ones participate) that they’ll cover the costs.

    My first Wedding was a traditional Big White Pouffy Family Wedding… and that is what we did.  My Ex-H and I paid for the clothing for the two child attendants (Ring Bearer & Flower Girl)

    We purchased her dress, and the flower Basket, and the flowers… and rented his tux, and bought the ring pillow.

    Their parents appreciated the thoughtfulness of this.  And we appreciated their allowing us to “feature” their children in our day / photos.

    It all seemed quite fair.

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 6
    600 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I paid for my flower girl’s dress even though her mother, who is my Maid/Matron of Honor, offered. I think it’s only polite but doing half for both parties is a nice compromise.

    Post # 7
    1249 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I bought it, but only becasue it was on super sale and the flowers on it matched my veil! It was $20 at the CHildren’s place.

    Target and JCP have cute dresses right now. Depending on your colors- you (or her parents) could save some cash 😛

    Post # 8
    297 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    This is in no way an actual answer to your question. My sister originally said she didn’t want to pay more than $5-$10 for a dress for her daughter (she likes shopping second-hand). I told her that while second-hand would be nice, there would be two flower girls (FI and I each have a niece) and they need to at least coordinate, if not match. She has since then found a $30 new dress (splurging, I know 😉 ) and purchased it for her daughter, but it is in no way a flower girl dress.

    So I’m pretty sure I’m going to end up paying for the flower girl dresses if I want them to wear what I pick out. But that should not be taken as “normal”, my sister is just a tad crazy. Also, we were already planning on not having the dresses scream flower girl, so that they can wear them again.

    So in conclusion, the parents should pay unless the parents are related to you and crazy.

    Post # 9
    7941 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    The parents paid for the dress. I paid for the shoes, hair accessory and having her hair done.

    Regarding price point I gave them three options ranging from $75.00 to $150.00 and let them choose. In the end they choose the middle range priced dress ($99.00).

    Post # 10
    39 posts
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’m paying for my flower girl’s dress, but she is my goddaughter and niece so it’s no big deal. I’ve been buying her cutesy clothes every time she grows out of something, so buying her dress is no biggie.

    Post # 12
    1797 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We offered to pay and gave a budget of 100$.  The parents (my cousins) did not accept and picked out a dress and paid on their own.  I don’t know how much they paid but it doesn’t seem like a very expensive dress. 

    Post # 13
    6263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I am paying bc I want some expensive dresses for them and I feel bad asking the parents to pay a few hundred for a dress. I know most parents wouldnt spend $2-300 on an outfit for a 4-yr old less yet just for my wedding so I feel I should pay if I want it “my way.”

    Post # 14
    2567 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    I think it’s probably traditional for the parents to pay.

    Our situation is a little different because the parents are going through a divorce.  So, we didn’t feel comfortable asking them to pay.  I was a flower girl in my cousin’s wedding years and years ago, so we’re using that same dress for the flower girl in our wedding.  The family was actually really happy with this and appreciate the sentimental value.  Plus, my mom can do the alterations for free.  Yay for free!

    Post # 15
    232 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    we offered to pay for our Flower Girl and RB dress/tux but they are my godmothers children and she refused to let us. She also insisted on throwing the shower with my mom (they’re BFFs since they were little girls) and my Maid/Matron of Honor.

    Post # 16
    2469 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I bought it, Kohl’s $30! Her parents got the shoes, though, because I was hoping they’d find her something she liked and might wear again.

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