(Closed) Who paid for your wedding? POLL.

posted 6 years ago in Money
  • poll: Who paid for your wedding?

    Mostly bride's family

    Mostly groom's family

    Just bride & groom

    A little bit of everything (specify below)

  • Post # 91
    157 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    I’ve gotten fairly lucky and my parents and my in laws are paying half and half. Honestly I think the bride’s family paying for the entire wedding is completely ridiculous and insane, especially considering the industry and how much it comes to cost. Personally in LA, we budgeted 40k for 130 people. I feel like it’s still somewhat unfair because my family is paying half but my family only takes up 1/3 of the wedding guests! 

    Post # 92
    2026 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    My parents insisted on paying for the majority. Less because they’re traditional and more because they are able to and wanted the money to come from them, rather than us — although we could have afforded the wedding just fine. Fiance & I are paying for our own airfare, rings, honeymoon, and the after-party. His parents are paying for the rehersal dinner.

    If it were up to us, financially, I think we would have planned a smaller and less formal wedding, although I’m definitely not at all unhappy with what we have planned. The wedding is about and for us, of course, but there are parts that are more important to various family members than they are to me/him, but that’s okay.

    Post # 93
    270 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    My fiance’s parents gave us a cap of how much they would spend on their end, which was the same amount they did for my fiance’s brother.

    We just made that cap our whole budget, and it’s worked out pretty okay. lol. 

    Post # 94
    191 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Just Fiance and I.  I’m surprised there are so many of us bees out there paying for our own weddings without any parental contribution!

    Post # 95
    86 posts
    Worker bee

    My in laws (groom’s family) very generously paid for the venue, which included the meal. My now husband and I paid for the rest of it eg flowers, cake, favours, DJ etc.

    Post # 96
    658 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: Stonehouse at Stirling Ridge

    Our wedding was spilt pretty evenly. 1/3 DH and I, 1/3 My parents, 1/3 his parents. 


    Our parents offered to pay for the wedding but we couldnt sit back and let them pay for everything so we aggreed on evenly splitting the costs and it worked out for the best. I dont think that tradition of a brides family paying for the wedding is really a thing anymore. It’s what makes most financial sense to the couple as well as their families if they want to help. 


    EDIT: this was strictly for the wedding, DH and I payed for our honeymoon entirely ourselves.

    Post # 97
    1594 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

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    Daisy_Mae:  When my Father-In-Law said “the brides family pays” during wedding planning because he’s “old fashioned” and “shouldn’t have to pay for anything”,  I asked him point blank if my father is giving him a cow or something for my dowry. That shut him up quickly, especially since neither DH or I asked anyone for a dime for the wedding. 

    DH and I saved and paid for the wedding ourselves. My parents actually paid for the reception (about $4k) as a wedding present to us on the day of. We didn’t know they were going to do that and we really appreciated it. 

    Post # 98
    2097 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Mom my gave me a big chunk that I hoped would cover everything, but we did go over and probably spent another 25%-30% of that ourselves, it’s hard to exactly say becuase I didn’t do a final/exactly tally and I was constantly buying little things here and there throughout the year of wedding planning that weren’t part of deposits, etc. I really hope we didn’t spend more than 30% more than what she gave… My fiance’s parents could afford half of the rehearsal dinner. My dad avoided the conversation of my wedding the whole time it was being planned, then 1 month after the wedding gave me $1K as a wedding gift so that went to paying off some of it. 

    The honeymoon was entirely paid for by the honeymoon registry- we didn’t register for anything else. That was awesome not having MORE bills at that point.

    Post # 99
    5045 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2016

    My parents had always said they would pay for mine and my siblings weddings. They offered right after we got engaged and gave us a 30-35k budget (DC area). We’re staying as close to 30k as possible. We’re 27 if that matters and it is normal in our social circle/families for the bride’s parents to offer to pay. FI’s parents have offered to pay for our Rehearsal Dinner and we are paying for our honeymoon, rings, and anything extra we want (hair and makeup, lodging, etc.). Had our families not offered, we would’ve been fine with paying ourselves.

    Post # 100
    180 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    We are paying outselves, we are looking at about $10,000. My parents will help with little things (mom is making my flowers and dad will pick up and return tables etc) 

    Post # 101
    585 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    We’re in the “a little bit of everything” category. We asked our parents if they wanted/could contribute, and each gave us an amount they want to give us. My parents are divorced, and by my calculations, the breakdown will be: my dad (40%), my mom (21%), FI’s parents (13%), and we are contributing the rest (26%). Our wedding will come in at about $35k-$40k, including rehearsal dinner but not including honeymoon.

    We feel so lucky and grateful that our families can contribute so much. And we are absolutely not telling any of the parents what the others are contributing, just being thankful that each has decided to give what they can.

    Post # 102
    1423 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    My parents are paying about 25%, his parents are paying 25% and we’re paying half. 

    Post # 103
    1115 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Mississauga Convention Centre

    Our parents, and grandparents each gave us a set amount and we also had savings

    Post # 104
    2008 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Everyone. Our parents will both give us money/pay for stuff. And we will pay for the rest. No idea what each are giving as yet.

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