Post # 1
Here’s the question: Who paid for your Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses? You or the girls? Also, who covered the cost of shoes, clutch, hair, makeup, etc.?
I am thinking of asking 3 of my friends and covering the cost of the dresses, but asking them to cover the rest of the costs. Is that being stingy? Should I pay for hair/makeup, too?
Post # 3
I think this is all a personal choice – I think most BM’s are prepared to pay for these things but if you could swing at least one of them it would be a nice gesture.
i paid for my girls dresses and I let my girls wear whatever shoes they wanted so they didn’t have to go buy new ones if they didn’t want to – i also gave them the choice of doing their own hair and makeup or having it done so it was up to them if they wanted to pay for it or not.
Post # 4
Firstly, this depends on where you live… my understanding is that US bridesmaids usually pay for the dresses, but in the UK then the bride pays. My personal feeling is that if you want them to wear something specific (specific shoes, specific dress, specific makeup) then you should pay for it. If you don’t really mind, and you just say “wear whatever shoes etc you like as long as they are red” etc, then they should pay for it. But that’s just a feeling.
Post # 5
Where I live, and for all the weddings I’ve been in, the bridesmaids pay for their own dresses and shoes, but the bride generally tries to keep the costs reasonable. If the bride has any requirements beyond that such as certain jewelry, a clutch, a wrap, or professionally done hair and make-up, she pays for all of that herself.
Post # 6
Where I live it’s very common for bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses.
Post # 7
I told my matron of honor (my only attendant) to wear whatever she wanted and do whatever she liked for hair and makeup with the condition that I wanted to approve the dress. She chose to get a new dress instead of using one in her closet, so she paid. I’m assumming she’ll do shoes, clutch, and jewelry from her closet and do her own hair and makeup, so there isn’t any cost involved. If she chooses new shoes or getting her hair done, she’ll pay.
Post # 8
It just depends. I am paying for everything for my BMs in terms attire so that means dress, shoes, aceessories, hair, nails, and makeup. They are providing their own airfare and accommodations.
Post # 9
My BMs are paying for it all. Their dresses are $122 each… they are most likely going to be picking their own shoes… and I told them that they are more than welcome to do their own hair and make up.
Post # 10
We paid for their dresses ($100, each), let them choose any shoes that they already had, and do their own hair and makeup. I’ve been in one wedding and was asked to pay for all of the stuff, even though she had been my Bridesmaid or Best Man and I had covered hers. We let the groomsmen wear black suits and white dress shirts, which they all already owned.
We paid for their stuff/didn’t require tuxes, because we felt guilty for them incurring expenses (they were all early 20s). Considering that they didn’t throw any bachelor/bachelorette party or shower, it was truly free for them to be in our wedding.
Post # 11
I’ve always paid for everything, dress, shoes, hair, makeup, etc. For my girls they paid for their dresses, shoes and accessories and I paid for their hair and makeup. It was expensive, but we’re older and there were my 3 best friends so I wanted to do it.
Post # 12
We picked up the dresses since we wanted them to be the same but they’re picking up the rest of the accessories and therefore get to accessorize any way they please. 🙂
Post # 13
@chrispygal: This is what I’m doing too 🙂
Post # 14
They paid for their dresses, I told them they could wear whatever black shoes they wanted, and hair is optional – I told them they can DIY it or have the girl coming do it. Makeup is DIY for everyone, but I plan on helping them with theirs (some of them don’t wear makeup much) and I was going to use a makeup set I already have with lots of different shades for them to choose from. We don’t have clutches, just bouquets, which are dried and they can keep afterward.
Post # 15
I have always understood that part of agreeing to be a bridesmaid is that you will have some costs like paying for your dress, shoes, etc. But, its always considerate to these costs reasonable. I dont think a bride should expect bridesmaids to pay to have their hair and make up done, however. I thought it would look nice for my girls to all have theirs done, so part of their gift (along with a spa day, wine glass and monogrammed robes) is going to be hair and make up the day of the wedding.
Post # 16
I bought my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, they can wear whatever shoes they want and I will give them the option of getting hair / makeup professionally done or they can do it themselves