(Closed) Who pays for breakfast the morning of the wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper

The host. The couple being married. That sucks they stuck you with the bill.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

For my wedding, we all got our hair and makeup done at our own respective salons; as I couldn’t afford to pay for hair and makeup, so I allowed my girls the option of going to whatever salon they wanted or to do it themselves. Then we met up at Starbucks for a light luncheon before going to the venue together to get dressed and our ‘getting ready’ photoshoot.

I paid for the lattes and sandwiches myself…as I couldn’t afford the hair and makeup.

 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

the morning of the wedding?  can’t everyone just do their own thing?

i had breakfast with my mom, brother, aunt, uncle and 2 cousins at a diner near our hotel.  i think my aunt picked up the bill.  had they not come in town the night before, i would have just had breakfast with my mom and brother.

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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Appless14 :  The couple that’s asking their Wedding Party to start getting ready at 8 am should pay.  Sorry, weddings are expensive.  She can get cheaper options if she’s worried about finances.  I don’t think it’s right for her to bitch to you about the cost of breakfast…like seriously?

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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Appless14 :  I’mm assuming this is just for the bridal party while they get ready? Skip the caterer and just bring some pre-made quiches, sandwich platters, etc. from a local grocery store. Or make them yourself for even cheaper a week in advance and freeze them. This breakfast is for your nearest and dearest and I’m sure they don’t care that much about fancy catering considering they’ll be at the wedding later.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I feel like it depends on if the bride is requiring the entire party to be there at 8am to get ready together or if it’s optional. If it’s optional, and she’s fine with people showing up at X time ready to go for photos only, then it is nice to provide some refreshments / coffee/ tea but not necessary.

but if everyone HAS to be there at 8am and no one is going to be fed until dinner, she should really Feed people something. It was nice of you to offer! 

Is it an option for you guys to bring in your own food and drinks? It would be much less expensive to bring some boxes of Joe and provide a fruit plate and bagel tray from a grocery store than to order through the venue. I don’t think you need to go allll out with a fancy hot breakfast, just coffee and something to keep people full. 

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

The host. You’re required to be there at a certain time, they should be paying, not you.

You don’t need a fully catered breakfast. Bagels and muffins with coffee and juice is perfectly acceptable.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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Appless14 :  Well we had a pretty early start time (8am) for hair/makeup. Because of that I made sure to have breakfood items available. We got ready at my house, and most of my girls made a stop for coffee on their way over and even brought me a “wedding morning latte”.  I also had lunch delivered while we were getting ready to make sure everyone had eaten.

I think if your bridal party is required to be there at breakfast time, the host should provide at the very least some snacks/drinks/coffee.

I was in two back-to-back weddings where we had an early start for hair/makeup and breakfast was not provided. It was VERY annoying because quite honestly it never crossed my mind there wouldn’t be anything to eat.

At one wedding the bride’s Mother-In-Law was hosting a brunch at the getting ready site (which was super annoying BTW) where almost the entire 300 person wedding guest list was invited to “stop by”. That being said we had to arrive at 7am and brunch wasn’t ready until like 11am. Most of us arrived, and then left to make a run for coffee/donuts at the convenience store.

 

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

As the bride I contacted a local bagel shop to have bagels, fruit, coffee and cream cheese delivered. But I’ve been in a wedding where the bridesmaids paid. I don’t think there’s a rule about this, but I personally would feel bad about having my bridesmaids pay for food on top of the other expenses they incurred for being in my wedding.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2017

In my experience it has always been the bride/groom/their family that pays for breakfast. Especially if they are requiring you to meet somewhere to get ready, or requiring you to come to breakfast.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My bridal party left the hotel with me at 9am to get hair and makeup done at the bridal suite in the venue. I paid for all the food, drinks, etc. I wouldn’t have asked them to pay for it since I’m the one who asked that they be there that early to get ready.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I did.  I got bagel, pastry, and sandwich trays from Giant (supermarket) and had water and juice. The Maid/Matron of Honor brought wine.

 

We had enough for the bridesmaids, groomsmen, photographers and everyone. I probably spent about $150 total and had plenty of food left over.  

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I am paying, I am having a really small bridal party but have invited a few friends to the bridal suite.  My friends have been great and this is another way to thank them for their support! 🙂

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper

Getting ready together is not a requirement or rather, it shouldn’t be. Everyone is entitled to go to their own salon or DIY.  Likewise, providing food is thoughtful, but not obligatory. 

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