(Closed) Who pays for bridesmaid dresses?

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

I would have loved to pay, but I just can not afford to.  I also have been in about ten weddings and never once did the bride pay for the dress.  When we looked I tried to keep it under $200 and ended up with a $128 dress from anthropologie.

Post # 4
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Worker bee

I am paying for the bridesmaid dresses myself.  I feel sort of weird making someone else buy a dress that I choose…

Post # 5
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Worker bee
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i think it depends on your own situation.  if i had been in 10 weddings and none of my dresses were paid for, then i would probably make my girls pay too.  but in my situation, i’ve only been in one wedding and the bride paid for the (very expensive) dress that she picked out (over $200).  i designed my own bridesmaid dresses and had them made so i paid for them.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m mixed on this.

Each of my girls are wearing very different dresses in different gradations of the same color. Unfortunately, 2 of the dresses that I love are Jenny Yoo and therefore retardedly expensive ($380!)

I can’t afford to buy this for them, but I was thinking of putting $100 each towards the dress to offset the cost (the 3rd dress is only $200). 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My girls will be paying for their own dresses, but I also just picked a length, color, and fabric and told them to get what they wanted. That being said, I’ve been in several weddings and have always paid for my own dress (though the bride did help out with rush shipping charges on one when they had a relatively short engagement).

Post # 8
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Helper bee

my girls braved a bridal sample sale for me and as a result, i saved thousands of dollars so i am paying for their dresses.  but i have also been in weddings where the BMs paid for their own.  i think either or works… just be aware of your BM’s financial situations!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - The Desmond Hotel in Malvern, PA

I have 6 bridesmaids; 4 of them are married, and I was in all of their weddings.  I paid for all of the dresses, shoes, hair & makeup myself in their weddings (the hair and makeup was never required, but I couldn’t resist!). 

I paid about $110 for one of the dresses, and in the $200 range for the other 3 dresses (before alterations, etc.).   

In a perfect world I would have loved to have treated my girls to their dresses, but seeing as it’s not a perfect world and I paid to be in their weddings, I think they understand that I’m asking the same of them.

My dresses were on sale when we ordered them (30% off!) so the total came to $139 for each girl.  I’m giving them the option to have hair and makeup done, but the cost is on them if they so choose, and I’m going to tell them a basic look I’d like for shoes but they can ultimately get whatever they want (or where something they already have).   

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I am paying for the bridesmaids dresses, but they will be purchasing their own shoes and other accessories for the day. Knowing them, they’ll spend more on their shoes than what the dress cost me…

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

i’ve been in both situations where i’ve purchased my Bridesmaid or Best Man dress and then when the bride bought our dresses for us…

i’m giving my BMs carte blanche to buy their favorite black jim hjelm  dress for my wedding – that way at least they picked it out and i know they’ll wear it again…

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Because my Fiance and I are paying for everything ourselves, our maids are paying for their own gowns.

 

However, that’s not to say that I didn’t bargin and coupon clip my way into getting them amazing deals!  Plus, the dress are cute enough to wear again and again.  Dress & Shoes, all courtesy of Ann Taylor totaled approx. $78.94.  The dress was marked down and another 25% off for $49.50 and the shoes were marked down, too for $29.44. 

 

No one complained. 😉 

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2008

i think generally the BMs pay for their own dresses…and it’s etiquette that the bride keeps the cost in mind when choosing the dress. 

but sometimes the bride will pay for the dress and that serves as the bridesmaid gift. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

My girls are paying, their dresses are $135 with a discount of 20% because I bought my wedding dress at the same shop.

They were all really good about the price and just wanted me to make sure I go something I liked, and I was concered about getting something that would suit them all. 

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

I paid for my BM’s dresses. I got them on sale after Christmas at white house black market for $50 each (originally $150ish I think)! I love them so much, I bought one for myself, too .

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

when i was a bridesmaid, i paid for my gown and fully expected to do so. in turn, the bride didn’t pick something ridiculously expensive. keep in mind, though, that alterations can add $50+ to the cost of a dress.

i’m hoping to pay for the dresses for my girls but, if i can’t, i’m hoping to pay for other things like hair, makeup, nails and so on.

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