Post # 1
I haven’t quite discussed this with my bridesmaids yet. Just wondering what people usually expect when they accept to be a bridesmaid. Does the bride usually pay for the dresses? In my culture, the bride only pays for kids attire. When I was my sisters bridesmaid, I paid for my own dress.
Post # 2
If you can afford to gift it, go for it. I don’t think it’s expected by any means. My girls are paying for their own dresses. Each a little over $100.
Post # 3
Definately the bride should pay for it. I’ve never heard of anyone (in real life) having to pay for their bridesmaid dress, in fact i think it would be quite offensive to ask someone to be your bridesmaid and make them pay for their own dress. However, its a cultural thing I guess – some cultures are OK with it, others are not.
Post # 4
It varies depending on where you are based.
Generally if you do ask your bridesmaids to pay, you should ask them their budget and how much are they willing to spend.
Post # 5
depends on country… in the UK the bride always pays, in america in most places its common for the bridesmaid to pay but in some places/circles the bride pays
Post # 6
- Wedding: LA Athletic Club
I have been in a lot of weddings and I have paid for my bridesmaid dresses. They were all reasonable priced so it wasn’t an issue. I live in Southern California and I have not heard of brides paying for their bridesmaids dresses (unless the bridesmaid can’t afford it.)
Post # 8
I live in Northern California. I think it’s pretty mixed here. Some pays for it some don’t. I really don’t have a big budget to buy everyone’s dress because wedding here is soooo expensive. I made their bridesmaid invites and each cost about $50. I still need to get thank you gift, and don’t want to be too cheap with that. Would it be weird to have the dresses as thank you gifts?
Post # 10
misschan: see this is the thing with american wedding you have a ‘bigger/better’ approach but over here where the bride pays we have what we can afford, usually that mean less bridesmaids (3 being pretty average but between 1-5 seems normal) and cheaper dresses
my view personally is if you cant afford bridesmaids then dont have them, it seems wierd you would spend $50 on an invite but cant afford a dress… my bridesmaids outfits are costing $50 and the little gift we got them to ask (pintrest style because its not nessacery) only cost $5 and looked really cute
Post # 11
Here in Australia the bridesmaids generally pay for their own dresses and even the rest like hair and makeup, shoes etc. If you are asked to be a bridesmaid the implication is that you will cover the costs. And the bride will often give a gift to say thanks.
This is not always the case though, and I am planning on having a ‘bridesmaids fund’ and letting my 4 bridesmaids spend it as they see fit – e.g. cheaper dress, better shoes. And I am letting them wear what they want (with some guidelines) so that they can re-use what they end up buying. I have a good salary, and I would not feel comfortable asking my bridesmaids to pay for themselves as 3/4 of them are in lower paying jobs. My fiancee thinks it is ridiculous for the bridal party not to pay for themselves however, so I am keeping my bridesmaids fund a secret and putting a bit of money in there each fortnight.
Post # 12
dresses aren’t a proper Thank You gift because no one wears them after the wedding. They’re strictly for your wedding. It would be like buying someone those padded moving blankets as a thank you for helping you move.
The $50 spent on bridesmaid “invitation” boxes would have been better spent towards dresses In My Humble Opinion, it’s really a matter of priorities though, everyone is different.
anyway in the US, while it is tradition for the bridesmaid to pay for the dress, I believe morally the bride should pay. Why should your friend end up with a pile of expenses just because you decided to get married? Your wedding = your expense.
Post # 13
Ontario Canada here, BM’s generally pay for thier own as far as I know, but it’s not unheard of for a bride to pay. In my expirence, BM’s and Groomsmen always pay for thier wedding outfits.
Post # 14
misschan: in the US, it’s standard for bridesmaids to pay for their dresses. I’ve been a bridesmaid several times, and the dresses ranged from $150 (plus $100 shoes) -$400 (maid of honor dress, I picked it out).
Post # 15
I’ve paid for my dress for 2 of the 3 weddings I’ve been a Bridesmaid/MOH in. The one I didn’t pay for was my sisters wedding, and my parents paid for all of the BMs dresses. I have no problem paying for a dress to be a part of someones specail day, but I think brides should be considerate about the price of the dress they pick IF they are requiring the BMs to pay for the dress. I’m paying $250 + $70 in alterations for a dress in a friends wedding this summer, and I know that when the time comes for my wedding, she would not be able to afford a dress in that price range, nor would I ask her to pay for a dress that expensive. Just my opinion, though.
Post # 16
misschan: I think it’s a mix of what you want to do, what people can afford and what the bridesmaids have in mind. In the last two weddings I was in, both brides were asian (one chinese, one korean) and they bought the dresses for us. At the same time, they were quite affordable ($80 each and there were only 4 of us.. the other one custom made from korea). Another option is to provide a color palette for the girls and have them pick their own dress. For my wedding, I gifted them their dress and provided hair and makeup. If your wedding is early enough, you can get some great steals! My bridesmaids dresses were only $26 from jcpenny!
Post # 17
I think it depends. I’ve been a bridesmaid and paid for my own, I’ve also had the bride pay for mine. I have 9 bridesmaids so they will be paying for their own dresses; however, I will be giving them gifts and accessories.