Post # 1
My girls are buying their own dresses. Can I ask them to pay for hair and makeup, too, or is this a big no-no?
I am planning to pay for manicures.
I found a great hair and makeup team but it would cost way too much for me to pay for everyone.
Post # 2
If you are requiring that they wear their hair a certain way, then you pay for hair and makeup.
If you are only requesting it but they have to option to wear their hair however they wish, then you do not pay for this.
Post # 3
Are you requiring them to get their hair and makeup done? If so, you should pay. Otherwise your BMs can do what they like.
Post # 4
It sounds like it’s your requirement that they get it done. In which case, you should pay. If you can’t afford it, then offer it to your girls and tell them the price, but expect them to say they’ll do their own hair and makeup.
Post # 5
Agreed with the others that if you do not plan on paying for them, you should be providing them with the option of the professional but not require it
Post # 6
I agree with PP… Where I am from, it would be extravagent for the bride to pay for any of that (but surely would be appreciated). When we accept to be in the bridal party, we expect to pay for the dress, hair and makeup. Most brides leave it up to the person to decide if they will get hair and makeup done but most do it because its’ part of the fun of the day!
Post # 7
Your wedding = your expense. They would not need to buy a fancy hair do if it was not for your wedding. You pay. There is a tremendous amount of pressure on women to say Yes to whatever the bride asks them to do, so saying “well make it optional and they will only pay for it if they actually want it” isn’t entirely accurate. A lot of ladies pay for ridiculous stuff for someone else’s wedding just because they don’t want to hurt the bride’s feelings.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I told my BMs they could pay to have theirs done if they wanted to, otherwise they could do their makeup and hair themselves. Only my SIL ended up getting hers done, but everyone looked great!
Post # 9
I agree with PP. If you are making it mandatory for them to get their hair/makeup done professionally, you should pay.
I would ask them what their budget is for hair and make up… you could use the team you want and pay for half of the services for each girl? Or pay for make up only or something of that sorts.
Post # 10
I would say it can go either way. I’ve been required to get my hair done and had to pay for everything including dress and shoes, and I’ve also been in weddings where I had the option of getting my hair done or not. Most of the bridesmaids went ahead and had theirs done at the salon the bride picked and I didn’t see anything wrong with the bride asking them to pay for their own, but at least we had an out. If I hadn’t just had my own wedding and bought a house, I would have paid for hair as well. We purchased our own dresses/shoes for that wedding as well. Pedicures were also an option and she did not pay for them, so it’s nice that you’re going to do that for manicures. I took my bridesmaids for pedicures and paid for them, but they were surprised that I had – they thought they would get their own.
I think it would be best if you give them the option of not getting their hair done, and you may find that they will anyway. If you want them to have their makeup done a certain way, you should pay for it, otherwise let them know that you’re using the makeup artist and they should let you know if they want to as well, at their expense. Most women would probably prefer to handle their own.
Post # 11
I’m paying for my girls’ hair and makeup as part of their gift.
Post # 12
If you are requiring that they have hair and makeup professionally done, you should pay for it. Otherwise, give them the option to pay for themselves to get it done professionally if they wish.
Post # 13
Thanks y’all. I felt like that was probably the way it had to go, but I was kinda hoping I could get out of it. I think everyone needs their hair/makeup professionally done. None of the girls usually wear much makeup/style their hair much.
The quote I got from the artists I like is 600 over my total hair/makeup budget for myself + 3 bridesmaids.
My budget is $900 total. Does that seem reasonable for bride + 3 bridesmaids for hair and makeup?
Post # 14
I might just ask them to pay like 50-75 bucks each towards it, just to help a tiny little bit.
Post # 15
I have been in 3 weddings now and 2 of those the bride MADE all the BMs pay for hair and makeup 🙁 I hate that! Mostly because it’s ridiculously expensive!!!