(Closed) Who pays for bridesmaids hair/makeup? (poll)

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who pays for bridesmaids hair and makeup?

    BMs get their hair/makeup professionally done & they pay for it themselves

    BMs get their hair/makeup professionally done & bride pays for it

    I didn't/ I'm not asking my BMs to get their hair/makeup done professionally

    other- please explain below

  • Post # 16
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    Busy bee

    If you’re giving them the option to do both, they pay. However, if you can pay that is really appreciated by BMs! It gets to be an expensive day for them too. But, if you are demanding that they have to get their hair or makeup done, or it has to be a certain look, you should pay.

    Post # 17
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Agree with most previous posters. 

    If you’re wanting them to get it done, you pay. Otherwise just give them the cost and they can decide. 

    Post # 18
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2015

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    cierrabear:  I don’t know how well off you are but some brides can’t afford to pay for a bridesmaids hair and makeup. When I’ve been in a wedding, I’ve paid for it. As long as your pick someone who isn’t super costly, I think it’s fair to have them pay for it. I mean if you are well off, then go for it.

    Post # 19
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    1323 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    i’m paying for it since they’re family. 

    Post # 20
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    105 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    My bridesmaids have very sensitive skin so are doing their own make up, and having their hair professionally done. I checked with them if this was okay and they were up for it. I think I should be the one paying for it, but they are insisting on paying!

    If you would rather get ready with your mom, then do that, your bridesmaids will understand 🙂

    Post # 21
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    56 posts
    Worker bee

    I was recently a bridesmaid and the bride gifted hair and makeup the day of as a surprise for us. We all expected to be paying for our own though so it was a sweet treat. 

    Post # 22
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    493 posts
    Helper bee

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    cierrabear:  In my experience, if a bride wants her BMs to have their hair done professionally, she pays.  I was in one wedding where the bride did not care, so half the people had it done (at our own expense) and half didn’t.  In my opinion, the ones that did not stood out.  I know it is difficult to do, logistically, but the most fun I had getting ready with a bride was when she had her salon open early and had all of us BMs get our hair done together.  The ones that had their hair done did their own makeup, and the ones amongst us more skilled at that helped those that were not. It was fun AND we all looked great.  (Note: Bride did not dictate hair style.  We chose whatever style we wanted.  Some went up, some went down.  We all looked nice.) 

    Post # 23
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

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    Horseradish:  I disagree.  I have been a Bridesmaid or Best Man 3 times and only once did the bride pay for hair and makeup (and she was going for a specific look with updo’s we couldn’t have done ourselves anyway.)  The other 2 times, it was offered to us without any pressure, and one time I opted to get my hair/makeup done (and paid for it myself) and the other time I passed on the offer and did my own.  I didn’t feel at all like I was “expected” to pay for this service, and both times the brides had splurged in other ways on the BM’s.  Actually, as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I would rather a bride make arrangements for hair/makeup and offer it as an option rather than sign me up to look a certain way even if she is paying for it.  

    Post # 24
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    Helper bee

    I think it would be something nice the bride can do if she can afford it, however if you can’t afford it then it’s up to the girls whether they want to pay for this extra expense. Weddings are expensive though, I’m paying for all the girls hair, make up and dresses and it does add up but that’s why I wouldn’t have a bridal party with more than 3 people as that’s the most I want to pay for.

    Post # 25
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    1111 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I just can’t afford to do this for everyone … So I’m not forcing anyone to get theirs done but, I am offering  if they would like me to make an appointment for them same time as mine but, they will have to pay for it 

    Post # 26
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    424 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Fiance and I will be paying for the his party’s suits, but not shoes. For my bridal party: dresses, hair, and makeup will be paid from us. They have long dresses so shoes are up to them. We will also be paying for both our mom’s hair and makeup and my only Future Sister-In-Law. Her daughter is our flower girl and we will be paying for her dress, hair, and makeup

    Post # 27
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

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    cierrabear:  I’m not paying for professional hair and makeup for my two bridesmaids, but I’m also not requesting that they have anything done professionally or even dictating a hairstyle. I’m not even having a professional makeup artist myself haha

    Post # 28
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Bridesmaids pay for it themselves. I think it is beyond asinine to expect the bride or couple to pay for every damn thing 

    Post # 29
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

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    Horseradish:  I get where you are coming from with regards to feeling pressure from the bride, but I don’t agree that everyone is like that. I’ve been in four weddings and I was always given the option of getting hair and makeup professionally done, but I would be covering the cost. I never felt any pressure from these brides and actually decided not to get makeup done in two instances.  

    Post # 30
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    576 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I did my own hair and makeup for my wedding, so my bridesmaids didn’t really have a choice, unless they went and booked hair and makeup at a salon of their choice. We’re all pretty low maintenence girls though, and don’t wear a lot of makeup, so I think they both felt more comfortable doing their own anyway. I was in one wedding where the bride had us all get our hair done, but didn’t pay for it. I asked for a curly half updo and ended up with a huge poof of curls on top of my head. It was awful, and there was no time to fix it so I just had to rock it. It wasn’t expensive, but I would have way rather just had the option to do my own hair. I think if the bride wants everyone to have their hair and makeup done she should pay for it. Otherwise she should give her BMs the option to do their own, or pay for their own hair and makeup. I’m pretty good at doing my own hair, and like it much better when I do it myself so I would be way more comfortable if just allowed to do my own thing, and the same goes for makeup. I have a whole traincase full of the stuff, and know what I’m doing so I’d rather save the money and do it myself.

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