Post # 31
cierrabear: Unless you are paying for it, I think it’s rude to ask your bridesmaids to get their hair/makeup professionally done. If you are letting them do it themselves, I don’t think it’s rude to ask that they just come ready at X time because you’d rather keep getting ready to just with your mom.
Post # 32
cierrabear: I gave my girls the option of pro hair and makeup at their cost. The all opted out of makeup and to get their hair done. They had free reign over what to do with their hair – I didn’t care as long as it was tidy and done (no mohawks please)
If you insist on pro-makeup and hair or require a specific hairstyle you should really pay for it.
Post # 33
I gave my girls the option of doing hair and/or makeup on their own or professionally. I told them what it would cost if they choose to get them done; I’m paying travel fees, taxes, and tips. Also, I said if they choose to do BOTH hair + makeup, I’ll contribute some extra money to make it less expensive. A subsidy, if you will 😉 Four of my girls are doing both hair + makeup, one girl is just doing makeup.
Originally I wanted to cover 1 of the 2 for them (of their choice) and then they could decide if they wanted to pay for the other one on their own. But crunching numbers, it’s just too much 🙁 So I think this is a good compromise (paying for taxes, tips, travel, etc. and chipping some $$ in if they do both).
Post # 34
I offered hair and makeup to my girls. If they accepted, I paid. If they didn’t, I didn’t. If it’s something you’re “requiring”, bride pays. Otherwise, meh. Take it or leave it.
Post # 35
cierrabear: so my bridesmaids all look like models, so I let them know that they should do what they want. They all decided to do their own makeup, but did ask for me to set up a stylist.
I found someone incredible and based on the number, got a good discount. Everyone wins!
Post # 36
I provided optional professional hair and makeup – they paid. Only 1/6 decided to not use the pros.
Post # 37
cierrabear: I had 10 bridesmaids and gave them the option to get hair/makeup done and I will pay for one of them. Hair was more expensive, and everyone got their hair done, so I paid for that. Whoever used my girl for makeup paid on their own and then my sister – who is pretty great at applying makeup – helped the ladies who either don’t really wear makeup or didn’t want to get it done.
Post # 38
i didn’t require professional hair/makeup, so if my girls wanted a pro they paid for it themselves. they all did their own makeup and only one had her hair done professionally.
i did my hair and most of my makeup at home and got dressed and did everything else in the bridal room of my church. i didn’t ask my girls to come to my home to get ready with me because it just wasn’t really convenient. i just told them to be at the church at a certain time and they could get ready there if they wanted to, but they all chose to just get ready on their own, which was perfectly fine. i still had plenty of getting ready photos even tho there wasn’t a whole lot of “getting ready” going on.
Post # 39
I’m not asking for them to get anything professionally done, so they can pay for it themselves if they want it done. With that said, I bought all of my bridesmaids make up brushes and a Smashbox starter kit as their gifts, so if they want they can use that for their make up if they want.
With that said, I do want them to get their nails professionally done and am paying for a spa day for us the day before my wedding so we can unwind and catch up before my big day.
Post # 40
The rule is, if you want professional, then you pay, not them. I happily paid for my girls. It was a way that i could thank them by pampering them.
Post # 41
The bride should pay for it if she wants the bridesmaids to have their hair and makeup done. When I was 18 I was a bridesmaid and the woman who did my make-up made me look like a whore. She put way too much on. I washed it off and did it myself. I think the hair and makeup should also be optional for the bridesmaids.
Post # 42
I paid for my mom, Mother-In-Law, and all my bm’s hair and makeup. I wanted to share in the getting-ready process with all the women in my life so treated them.
Post # 43
When I was in a wedding last year as a bridesmaid I had to pay for my hair. We did our makeup ourselves.
It seems like there’s a lot of varying opinions, so whatever you decide will be okay. It’s not a landslide either way.
Post # 44
I didn’t have a bridal party but I did treat my close friends to hair and makeup. Makeup is pretty personal for people and some people do not like it when getting it professionally done. It’s often overdone and people are uncomfortable. I think paying for hair is best. But if you can swing both you should do that.
Post # 45
I just have two bridesmaids, and my Maid/Matron of Honor recommended the hair stylist/makeup artist. She offered a great deal of $80/person for both hair and makeup. Mom is paying for the three of us because we all have vastly different hair styles, and there’s no way we could DIY and get anything close to a coordinated look. My girls don’t have much money, so even if it weren’t customary for the bride to pay when she insists, I would do it anyway as a gift.