Post # 46
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
My bridesmaids and I will all be getting ready together (except for maybe 1 will come later). I am not making them get their hair or makeup done, but a girl is coming to do my hair. I gave them the prices and let them pick what they want to do – they’re paying for it. All my bridesmaids (and myself) have chosen to do their own makeup. 3 bridesmaids and myself are getting our hair done and 1 bridesmaid is choosing to do her own hair.
Post # 47
i gave my ladies a choice ahead of time…they could either have theirs done or do it themselves, and then planned accordingly. only 1/2 of the girls wanted theirs done, so they were scheduled with the girl who came to do mine. they paid for their own if they wanted it done (this is why i gave them a choice) so that there was no pressure to pay for extras that they couldn’t afford.
Post # 48
I gave them all the price and let them know the option is there. I did not and will not insist that they do so. If they want to get their hair done that morning elsewhere or do it themselves, it doesn’t bother me. I am not paying any way you shake it.
Post # 49
Agree with most. If you have a specific style in mind and WANT them to all get it done, you pay. If you are getting yours done and also giving them the option to do theirs as well, 50/50, if you can pay it would be nice but since it’s optional for them it’s ok for them to pay. Just make sure they dont feel obligated to get it done, make it clear it’s optional (Brides often don’t and then BMs feel strong armed into paying $160…)
as for getting ready in the morning? Yes, it will be chaotic, and if you really want quiet time you may want to skip it… but its a really wonderful experience to get ready with your family and closest friend for the big day!
Post # 50
I am going to pay for their makeup since I am insisting on it, but not their hair. I hope they get it done professionally, but if not oh well lol.
Post # 51
- Wedding: July 2015 - Calamigos Ranch
I think that it would be great if the bride could cover those costs for their bridesmaids. But if that’s not possible then I’m all for giving them the option and having them foot the bill if they decide to do it. My bridesmaids are all in different financial situations so I’m covering it for the bridesmaids who would be financially put out, but not for the one who can cover it herself and would never even dream of having me pay for it.
Post # 52
I am having my bridesmaids have their hair done and pay for it. They can do their own makeup. I’m not making them pay for anything else extra, though, except their dress. I’m not even telling them what shoes to wear or anything.
ETA: apparently all the other brides commenting on this have a lot more money than me or any of the brides whose wedding’s I’ve been in. Paying for everything is really not an option for me.
Post # 53
I gave my girls the options of hair and/or makeup or neither. All the girls want their hair done and two want their makeup done. They’re paying and I’m covering the tip for everything. Also paying for fmil and fsil hair and makeup as a gift from fiance to them (fsil will be a freshman in college next year).
This is normal in my area. Never had either done so no idea if covering the tip is even typical. My girls seemed happy about this.
Post # 54
I’m with you on this, I’m from New Zealand and I’ve been a bridesmaid 4 times (!!) and only once did a bride offer to pay for anything (the hair).
Post # 55
I’m not paying for my BMs hair and makeup; I’ve already spent $500 each on them!
Post # 56
I’m paying for my girls’ hair and makeup – they’re eaching paying for their own dresses, so I thought it would be nice to cover their beautification! Plus I think it will be so much fun to have that pampering time together!
Post # 57
Typically the bride pays for hair and make-up. I paid for mine plus their attire. I personally feel that asking someone to stand in our wedding is a favor/honor to us as the bride. It’s asking for their time, attention, and all too often their money. I feel that if you’re asking someone to be a part of your day that you should be prepared to pay for that. And so that’s why I paid for everything for my wedding party. But it is pretty standard for the bride to pay for hair and make-up.
Post # 58
I’m paying for their hair and make-up as their bridesmaid present from me.
Post # 59
I’ve paid for my own hair at every single wedding I’ve been at And it was the brides suggestion to get it done. I expect to pay for my own hair and make up when I say yes to being a bridesmaid. Just like, I expect, to pay for my dress and shoes, etc. Etc.
Post # 60
As a professional wedding makeup artist, I’ve done about 100+ weddings and I’ve never seen a bride pay. I’m not saying either is right or wrong, just that I’ve never had a bride pay. I’ve had plenty where only some people got there hair and makeup done, and some did their own. I’ve had some where the bride’s mother paid for everyone (especially true when cousins/sisters are in the wedding). For my wedding, I told them how much hair & makeup would be and asked if they’d like to pay or come over and we can all do ours together.