(Closed) Who Pays for Dinner?! It’s a reception, right?

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

Uh…I would most definitely pay for dinner.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The host and hostess pay for dinner. You are the host and hostess- nuff said.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

God, I would be pissed if I travelled for a wedding and didn’t even get dinner out of it. Some people may be getting a vacay out of it, but it wasn’t one that they necessarily chose, they went along with it so they could attend your wedding. I wouldn’t short change your guests by not even treating them to dinner. Give this thread a day or two and show it to your Fiance, I’m with you on this one and I’m sure most Bees will be too! πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yes, I say you pay.  If it comes directly following the ceremony, I consider it to be a reception.

Good luck with it!  Sounds like it’ll be fabulous!

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yeah, I think paying for dinner would be expected.  The dinner is the reception, IMO, and therefore would be treated similarly.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

If it were my wedding, I would pay for the dinner for the guests. You’re right, it is like a reception.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

It is still a wedding reception even if your just going to dinner. With that said you are responisble for paying for the dinner for everyone. I would think that your guest would be very upset after having to pay to get there and stay there they not even get treated for one meal. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have never attended a wedding and had to pay for dinner, regardless of whether I had to travel for the wedding. The dinner is like a thank-you to your guests for sharing in your day with you! I really think your fiance and his mom are wrong on this one.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yeah, especially for an out of town wedding you should treat your guests that are traveling for you. I went to a small local wedding where everyone paid for their own meal at a local bar and grill, and it was fine, but if it had been a destination wedding that would be kind of rude considering what the guests are expected to pay for.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

you are totally right–and he is wrong!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@MississippiQueen: Haha show this thread to him. πŸ™‚ In the process of planning my wedding, I asked so many questions Darling Husband and I disagreed about on these forums, and then I would show him the results! πŸ˜‰

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

If I carted my ass to a Destination Wedding and was made to pay for my own reception meal, I would be appalled. You absolutely MUST pay for everything associated with your wedding. You’ve asked your guests to make a major financial commitment, the least you can do is feed them. 

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