Post # 1
I was just wondering what you Bees think about flower girl and ring bearer outfits and who pays for them…
Normally I would think that the parents of the flower girl and/or ring bearer would cover it, but in my case, they are one of my bridesmaids children.
Given that she is already spending money to buy her own bridesmaids dress, I don’t want to overburden her and expect her to pay for their outfits as well. So I was thinking of offering to pay for them myself.
Do you think this is fair?
Post # 3
I think you are very fair, and I am in the same situation as you. My flower girl is the daughter of my brothers fiance [flowergirl is my niece], and my brothers fiance is my Maid/Matron of Honor.
I’ll most likely be paying for the flower girl dress, and I don’t mind really, I don’t plan on getting a super expensive one.
Post # 4
I paid for the flowergirl/ring bearer outfits. I don’t think that should fall on people who are “helping” you out by letting the kids be in your wedding.
Post # 5
@jenilynevette: Yeah, it’s just one of those things that I don’t think I would feel comfortable asking her to pay for.
@MrsTVLover: Good point 🙂 Just out of curiousity, did the rest of your bridal party have to pay for their outfits? Or did you pay for theirs as well?
Post # 6
My mom paid for my flower girls’ outfits, but I originally thought their mom would. They were only $40 dresses, though. My ring bearer’s parents are paying for his outfit.
Post # 7
It’s fair, and a lovely gesture, if you can afford it. If you can’t afford it, don’t feel badly.
Post # 8
I think it’s fair. I think that flower girl and ringbearer outfits should be calculated into the wedding budget, same with bridesmaid and groomsmen attire, but that’s my opinion, and I think that you paying for the outfits is very fair 🙂
Post # 9
We wanted very specific and somewhat pricey attire for our FGs so we covered the majority of it for the parents. Ours were ballet-inspired, so the parents covered the leotard portion but we got the shoes, tutu, etc.
Post # 10
Most people I know have paid for the kids’ outfits, instead of asking the parents to.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
We’re paying. They’re doing us a favor by having their kiddo be in the wedding, so I feel like it’s fair to buy the dress for them.
Post # 12
i also paid but i don’t think it’s a requirement.
Post # 13
Parents should pay for the child’s outfit but if they can’t afford it maybe you can help.
Post # 14
When I was a flower girl, back in the day, my mom paid for it…so not the bride.
Post # 15
My RB/FG are siblings. Their mother has already bought flowergirl dress (only $12) and whichever one of us comes across a suitable (and cheap) ringbearer outfit first will buy it. In my case, I don’t want anything specific (just white sunddress for her and grey pants/white shirt for him) so I don’t think she minds getting something the kids might wear again. If I wanted some specific and expensive outfit, I wouldn’t let her pay for it.
Post # 16
We had a similar situation. My fiance’s brother, 2 neices, and 1 nephew is in our wedding. We felt that it wasn’t fait for one family to have all those expenses so we paid for all 3 kids outfits; just over the cost of the tuxes, which my fiances was free, so worked out nice! Congrats!