(Closed) Who pays for Mother-of-the bride and the Bride-to-be at the bachelorette party?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should the hosts pick up the dinner tab for the bride and the mother of the bride? (hosts are Aunts)
    The hosts should pick up the bride and the mother of the bride's dinner tab. : (3 votes)
    5 %
    The hosts should pick up the bride's dinner tab. : (45 votes)
    76 %
    The hosts should not pay for the bride's tab. : (2 votes)
    3 %
    The hosts should not pay for the bride or the mother of the bride's dinner tab. : (9 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I am not sure about the mother of the bride, but the hosts would normally pay for the bride, since the party is for her!

    Post # 5
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    At a bachelorette party, everyone should pay their own way except the bride. The way I see it, the party is a gift from everyone else to the bride. So no other guests should get a free ride.

    p.s. At least in my experience, usually all guests contribute to the bride’s cost, not just the hosts.

    Post # 6
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    Bee Keeper

    The Mother should cover her own costs, and the Bridal Party should have covered for the bride.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @questionqueen:  Who invites their MOM to a bachelorette party?????

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    i agree with pp, normally everyone pays their own way plus the brides.

    never heard people paying for the mother of the bride though!

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @nursemel:  All the bachelorette parties I’ve been to have had the mothers (and aunts) of the bride in attendance. 

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @Krises:  That is kinda weird though.  Never been to a bachelorette party where the mother of the bride was there.  That is usually an event reserved for the bride and people her age.  I’m not talking a bridal shower, but the bachelorette party. 

    Post # 11
    Bee
    1466 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

    @nursemel:  My mom was invited to mine! As was my Mother-In-Law and my 2nd mom growing up! I think it probably just depends on the relationship of the bride and mom and the kind of mom!

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @Mrs. Doily:  Well none of my family live in the same state as me so it wouldn’t have even been an option, but no way would I have invited her even if she did live near me.  She would have thought it strange that she was invited just like I would feel weird inviting her.

    Post # 13
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    The cost of the bride should be equally distributed between all guests.

    Mother of bride can pay her own way!

    My mother won’t be going to my hens night, and my dad won’t be going to my grooms bucks night because they firmly believe it’s a night that should be spent with friends, not worrying about your parents or future in laws!

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I would say it depends, i am paying for my own cost for my bachelorette party, I just don’t feel right about my friefoot paying for it. My shower was enough, plus they at bringing gifts to the bachorletre party as well.

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’ve never been to a Bachelorette party where mothers participated.

    I plan on having a separate little luncheon with my mom and Future Mother-In-Law since my bridesmaids like to party it up hardcore and the mothers are more sophisticated and like quiet time at the spa and champagne (with strawberries, what!)

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    My mum isn’t coming (isn’t her thing) but my soon to be Mother-In-Law is coming! it’s going to be a blast! I have friends of all ages, from 22 through to 56 coming. My Mother-In-Law is just over 70 and she parties better than most of us lol. 

    I’m paying for myself. I feel greedy even asking for others to pay their own way. They are but it just doesn’t seem right to me.

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