(Closed) Who pays for rehearsal dinner?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who pays for rehearsal dinner?
    Couple pays : (15 votes)
    18 %
    Parents pay : (64 votes)
    75 %
    Everyone pays for their own meal : (6 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Traditionally the groom’s family pays. But that varies based on whether or not they are willing to contribute. Regardless, the Rehearsal Dinner should be hosted, so either parents or the couple should pay for everyone’s meal.

     

    Post # 4
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    56 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Every situation is different, but it is typically paid by groom’s parents.  It is traditionally called the “groom’s dinner.”  Depending on your situation, you might do something different. Up to you guys.

    Post # 5
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    2416 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Yes, traditionally the grooms parents pay but you can do it however you’d like to. I definitely would not have everyone pay for their own meals…that’s a bit tacky.

    Post # 6
    Hostess
    11167 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    My Future Mother-In-Law and Future Father-In-Law will be paying for the rehearsal dinner.

    Post # 7
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    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Yeah, traditionally the groom’s parents pay, but I’m not sure how common that is any more (just like more and more couples seem to be paying for their own weddings rather than the bride’s parents paying).  We planned and paid for our Rehearsal Dinner.

    Having the guests pay for their own meals is not a viable option, because the Rehearsal Dinner is supposed to be a thank-you to the people who are participating in the wedding and have supported you during the planning.

    Post # 8
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    120 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Originally my parents were going to pay for the Rehearsal Dinner because my new zealand fiance and his family didnt even know what a Rehearsal Dinner was (so i would never ask them to pay) However his dad offered to contribute to our wedding, so he is now paying for the Rehearsal Dinner. Otherwise if both sets of parents couldnt pay i guess me and my fiance would 🙂

    Post # 9
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    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    You can do whatever you want. We paid for our own rehearsal dinner. I’ve been to some where the brides parents paid, the grooms parents paid, and we paid for our own dish. Once, a great uncle paid!

    Post # 10
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    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I think we’re to a point where it all doesn’t matter anymore especially now that many brides and grooms pay for their own weddings. However, traditionally it should be the groom’s parents. 

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Like PP have said, it’s traditionally the groom’s parents. My FI’s parents are paying, but they offered. If they hadn’t, we would have ordered pizza and eaten at our place.

    Post # 12
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    2616 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    grooms dad is paying..

    Post # 13
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    4887 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Future Mother-In-Law has offered some cash but we have yet to see it and aren’t sure what’s going on, so we’re planning on paying for it ourselves for now.

    Post # 14
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    902 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I am wondering how to handle the situation of BOTH parents wanting to pay, should they split?  Should they argue it out? haha

    Post # 15
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    768 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My FI’s parents are paying for this (they offered).

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @PoeticDoveInLA:  they both want to pay for the rehersal? could u have grooms parents pay for rehersal and ur parents pay for a brunch the day after the wedding.. or they can go fifty fifty on it. (are you paying for your wedding or is your parents paying for that ) if they were already contributing to the wedding i wouldnt feel comfortable asking them to pay for the rd. 

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