Post # 1
Have any of you heard that it is the groom’s parent’s responsibility to pay for the flowers? My parents are paying for the wedding and I realize how fortunate we are for that to be the case. In the early planning stages, my mom asked what their responsibilities were as far as what the bride’s parent traditionally pay for. During the conversation my mom said something about the groom’s parents paying for the rehearsal (which I had heard of and they have offered to do) and the flowers. I hadn’t heard about the groom’s parents paying for the flowers and since his parents haven’t offered, we’re not expecting them to do so. My parents paid for the flowers for my brothers’ weddings though and so I don’t feel like it is their responsibility to pay for mine…does that make sense? FI and I can pay for the flowers ourselves and that is what I would be most comfortable with, but I still have to convince FI because he is all too happy to let my parents pay since they’ve offered. So, since this whole issue has come up, just out of total curiousity, are any of your FI’s parents paying for flowers?
Post # 3
@celticbride: I don’t think that the traditions regarding brides family paying for certain items and grooms family paying for the rest really holds up anymore. Most couples pay for their weddings themselves. My parents and FI’s parents are contributing, but they just gave cash and didn’t say what it was for.
Post # 4
I would pay for them yourselves and then if Father-In-Law offer money put it towards that. I think they tradiitonal things each family pays for is no longer applicable these days.
Post # 5
I have never even heard that rule before. The tradition as I know it is that the bride’s family pays for the wedding and the groom’s family pays for the rehearsal.
Post # 6
I’ve heard of the groom’s family paying for rehearsal dinner, flowers, rings, and sometimes alcohol. However, unless they offer, I don’t think you can ask. I’d say you should pay for it unless your Fiance tactfully brings it up to them.
Post # 7
@BooRadley: Oh I definitely wasn’y planning on asking them to pay! I was just curious if anyone else had heard of the groom’s family paying for flowers- I had always thought of just the rehearsal.
@asscherlover: Yeah I know that most of theses traditions don’t hold up these days since most brides and grooms are paying for the weddings, I guess both of our parents are still a little more traditional in that respect and my mom especially wants to make sure she takes care of everything that ‘traditionally’ a bride’s parents would take care of. In NO way, is there an expectation from me that they must pay for anything.
Post # 8
I had never heard of this before but this past weekend when I was with my fmil she said she would pay for all the flowers. We didnt ask her to or expect this from his family but it is greatly appreciated. I would just pay for flowers yourselves if his family didnt offer to pay for flowers.
Post # 9
I’ve read in a couple of different places that the groom’s family is traditionally responsible for the flowers. I was surprised by that, too! We have it backwards, I guess. My mom is paying for flowers and his dad is paying for alcohol.
Post # 10
I think it all depends on were and how you grew up. In our family/circle the brides parents pay for the everything but the rehersal dinner,flowers, rings and marriage certificate.
This is what is happening in our situation except Fiance and I have payed for half of our rings and our favors, some wedding decorations and a few other smaller items