(Closed) Who pays for the wedding?

posted 8 years ago in 30 Something
  • poll: Who's paying for the wedding?
    My parents (bride) : (47 votes)
    15 %
    His parents (groom) : (3 votes)
    1 %
    Us (bride and groom-no parental help) : (134 votes)
    42 %
    Split (between parents (any other supporters) and the couple) : (138 votes)
    43 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My parents along with Darling Husband and I came up with the cost for our weddding. I was very grateful to have assistance with our wedding. However we went much more over the top than we would of if the cost was soley on us lol

    Post # 4
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    2538 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We paid for everything as far as the wedding day was concerned, but his dad wanted to be traditional and pay for the rehearsal dinner. We didn’t expect it; I cried due to happiness; however, we paid for our wedding ourselves.

    Post # 5
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    2410 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We are paying for everything ourselves and my parents are covering the rehearsal dinner, weird I know.

    Post # 6
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    2858 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

    We’re paying for about 2/3 of it ourselves, and our parents are chipping in with the rest.

    Post # 7
    Member
    514 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Whoever can afford it which these days is usually a combination

    Post # 8
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    351 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Very Interesting!

    Post # 9
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    1553 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We are paying everything ourselves.  I’d feel silly taking money from our parents at our age.

    Post # 10
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    1537 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    My mom is paying for my dress, My dad is paying for the ceremony/reception (including sit down dinner, cake, decorations, etc.), and Fiance and I are paying for invitations, favours, grooms tux, and all the little “extras.”

    My parents also went halfers (they’re happily divorced) on our engagement party which included renting the lounge at The Keg, paying for all food and booze for 30 people, and a huge monogramed cup cake stand (I’m spoiled I know…).

    FI’s parents have declined to contribute anything (even though they make way more than my mom!). They won’t even spring for the rehersal dinner, which I had always thought was the groom’s parents responsibility tranditionally. So I guess for us it’s mostly my dad footing the bill!

    Post # 11
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    433 posts
    Helper bee

    50/50 his parents and mine

    Post # 12
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    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I’m not 30 yet, but I’m close and my hubby is. My parents paid for most of it. My sister is 30 and I know my parents will also pay for her wedding when she gets married. I don’t think there’s a cut off for us when it comes to weddings.

    Post # 13
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    296 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We are paying for everything. I think times have changed, and not everyone gets married out of High School anymore. We make more money than my family, so I would feel awful taking money from them or asking for it. Although my mom wants to pay for the wedding dress, I won’t let her. I also think if you pay for your wedding, you aren’t obligated to do it a certain way.

    Post # 14
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    100 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I voted for a “split.” My fiance and I made our plans and budget based on what we could afford to pay for ourselves. My parents then offered us a lump sum for the wedding–and it will cover the vast majority of our costs. So it’s not a 50/50 split, but fiance and I are covering certain elements like the honeymoon, dress/suit purchase, paying travel and lodging costs for some relatives to attend our destination wedding, etc.

    Post # 15
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    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    we are paying for everything ourselves.

    Post # 16
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    382 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    splitting 50/50 with my parentals.

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