(Closed) Who Pays for the Wedding Bands?

posted 12 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

We paid for ours together.  I wouldn’t personally add it to the wedding budget that either set of parents pay for since I would feel weird if they wanted a say in what I would wear on my finger for all of kingdom come.

Post # 33
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Busy bee

I was very surprised to find out that some people buy each other’s. We are paying for them together, as we have shared finances. Even if we didn’t share all our money, though, I think we would have a combined wedding fund and buy them from there. We picked them out together as well.

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011 - The Tribute Golf Club

We are buying each other’s rings.

Post # 35
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I was drawn to your post and string of replies because I always search for “Wedding Band” because I am a wedding band — just not the kind you wear.  My ex-wife and I each paid.  Each of you is asking the other for a commitment to the relationship, so each of you should own part of that token of commitment.  And, if you’re still looking for a wedding BAND, please look me up.  [email protected]   

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We’re splitting all wedding expenses equally. In his tradition he should be buying me my wedding clothes and ring, but we’re pretty radically egalitarian, so we decided to split everything.

Post # 37
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2022

We are paying for ours together.  Mine was $3k and his is $1500. 

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Hm, do yall have seperate bank accounts? Me & my fiance have a joint bank account so we really didn’t decide that one or the other was going to pay for the ring…we just decided we would just do it together, seeing as how all of our money’s in one place. We put it on layaway and are paying it a little bit at a time before the wedding. But, since it sounds like you don’t have a joint account…I would just pay little bits at a time. Like, if you put it on layaway or something…let him pay once and you pay the next. Or just split it down the middle. Whatever works for yall…only you guys know how your relationship/money situation works.

Post # 39
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Bee Keeper

We are buying each other’s rings as gifts.

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

He actually ended up paying for them…we are pretty much splitting the costs of stuff, so while he pays for some things (ie: dj, wedding rings) i pay for others (photographer, video, etc) doesn’t really matter too much though since our money is going to be combined anyway in the future…

Post # 41
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We are saving our money together and will be buying the rings together as well 🙂

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

We’re buying each others’ rings. For some reason my mom thought that was strange, but whatev.

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Good question. I never really thought about it even though I’ve been looking for wedding rings like crazy! I guess we’ll buy them together. We don’t really have a combined account but we go by the “whatever income either of us makes is ours” logic. I haven’t found work yet and so he will most-likely pay for it, although the thought of that doesn’t really make me feel too nice. I want them engraved and personal. Scratch what I just wrote above, I’ll insist on paying for his, even though our funds will all be combined anyway.

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Fiance is getting my wedding band for me for Christmas!  I get to choose one that I like, yay!  I’m thinking an eternity band in platinum to match my e-ring.  🙂

As for him, he’s so simple.  He wants a cheapie one that is plain and indestructable, lol! 

Post # 45
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

ours are part of the wedding budget. they aren’t that expensive, we’re jewish so we have to do plain gold bands so it isn’t that big of deal. i don’t feel bad at all that it’s coming from my parent’s money, they are giving us a set amount and we can either spend it on the wedding or keep it. we aren’t going to spend it all anyway, so the money would be ours to spend how we like it, and we’re choosing to spend some of it on rings. i just like to include it in the budget so i know what we’re spending.

Post # 46
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m looking to get two wedding bands – one that will match the diamonds on the band of my e-ring and another that is a stacking band. So with the cost of his wedding band, we’ll probably just split the total of all three rings in half and then each contribute that much.

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