Post # 1
We are going wedding band shopping this weekend and I just realized I’m not sure what the “etiquette” is for paying. Do we pay for each other’s? Do we pay for our own? Does it not matter at all? My thought was that we should pay for each other’s bands since it seems like a gift but maybe I’m wrong.
Post # 2
In my case, we used the joint account to pay. Since getting married means we both share the money at the end so it doesnt matter. You wouldnt go wrong either way.
Post # 3
Usually the bride or her family pays for both. Now, the bride can pay for both, they can pay for their own or from a joint account
Post # 4
together or bride, in our case my parents paid for ours
Post # 5
mtmt1311: I see what you mean. Even though we bought a house together and have a 6 month old together we still keep our finances pretty separate. He’e been paying for most of the wedding so far because he makes more than me but I don’t feel right about him buying his own band.
Post # 6
NightOwl27: in my personal opinion, once you’re engaged money starts becoming “our money” and not just “your money and my money”. Obviously not over night, but it arts to make things easier and I found it caused less tension that way. We didn’t have a joint account until the Monday after our wedding (my husband was really excited about it for some reason lol) but when it came to wedding bands I used my account to pay for his and he used his account to pay for mine. But we paid all the bills we had with my back account so our money was all together and he pulled money out of it to pay for mine. Does that make sense? I hope so haha.
I ordered his ring online and he had mine custom made to match my ring so he had to go pay in the store and he wanted the band to be a surprise so I couldn’t just go down and pay for it.
But it’s whatever makes you both comfortable.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2016 - Temescal Lake House
We plan on buying them for each other so he will get mine, I’ll get his. Not sure his traditional that is. but ya, I view it as a gift
Post # 8
I’m using a family ring, so he only bought my engagement ring. I’m buying his ring and making it match as much as possible to mine, which is plain.
Post # 9
We have a joint credit card for wedding purchases but I was too lazy to get it as it was 3am when I found mine on sale lol so I put it on my personal I know by heart. Since we moved in two years ago our money is basically each others.
Post # 10
We paid for each other’s. I bought his, he bought mine.
Post # 11
NightOwl27: I think my husband put it all on his credit card. We decided to do it that way because we were planning to combine finances when we got married so even at that point we viewed it as if it was both our money.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
I paid for both out of our wedding account. Since we already lived together and pay everything jointly, it worked out that way.
Post # 13
I paid for both of them. His ring was fairly inexpensive, and the ring that matched my engagement ring was fairly pricey. I didn’t feel right about him buying me another expensive ring after he paid so much for my engagement ring. Even with me buying both rings he still paid substantially more.
Post # 14
I bought ours because I’m the one who had money when we needed to buy them.
I’d have liked to have bought each others though… Though if you get identical styles, mens are often more expensive due to the size and thickness.
Post # 15
We paid for ours out of our joint wedding account.