(Closed) Who pays for wedding party attire?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It’s up to the bride, really, but usually the Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen are in charge of purchasing their stuff…I know I’ll be asking all my BMs what they’re comfortable with spending before we look at dresses because I know they all don’t have a ton of money to spend or anything like that…but I want to look into buying their shoes for them since I am DIYing all of them with crystals and bows, so it’s only fair that I should help pay for the shoes since they REALLY won’t be able to wear those again…when my FH’s brother got married last year, my FH had to pay for his tux and he was the best man, so it’s pretty common that that’s what happens in the bridal party…good luck! 🙂

Post # 4
1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

In the US the attendants normally pay for their attire, but I believe traditions are different in other countries.

Post # 5
13903 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s really up to the bride.  Most often, the BMs pay for their own dresses unless there is some sort of financial hardship for the Bridesmaid or Best Man. 

Post # 6
1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Canada & US it seems to be that the Bridesmaid or Best Man & Groomsmen pay, whereas at home in Ireland the Bride and Groom pay. I think this also explains the difference in wedding party sizes….if you’re not paying for it you can ask a million people to be in it!!

Post # 7
38 posts
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t know if I would say that Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen in the US and Canada always/normally buy their attire. I think that is very common here, but not always the case. I have been in several weddings and have bought my own attire in about half the cases. For the rest of the weddings, the bride paid for my outfit. I decided to pay for my bridal party’s attire for my own wedding. 


Post # 8
6244 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

My bridesmaids are paying for their dresses.  I asked them to each pick their own style as long as they are the specific color and are (or could be hemmed to be) a certain length.  I hope it will increase the chances that they can wear the dresses again.  They absolutely loved it, especially since I have bridesmaids ranging from 4’9″ to 6’7″ and all sizes in between.  There was no way we could find one dress that looked great on everyone.  And this way they will all be comfortable and they will all feel awesome because they will all look awesome.

I am paying for their shoes.  I want them all to wear a specific shoe so I told them I would “gift” them their shoes.  They are glittery flats so they can totally be used again, not just for a wedding.

Also I am paying for their hair the morning of the wedding because I want us all to get ready together, as one last hurrah.

Post # 9
7547 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

In the US, it seems like the attendants usually pay. However, if you have the money, I think you should try to help them out. I am because our parents are giving money for our wedding and I don’t want to put a financial burden on my best friends. 

Post # 10
2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s up to you!  

Our Groomsmen paid for their vests, pants, and dress shirts.  We gifted them their ties and socks (plus a gift card to a favorite store).  We asked them to wear black belts and black shoes (didn’t specify a specific style) – I believe only one Groomsmen had to buy black shoes because he didn’t own any.

Our Bridesmaid or Best Man paid for their dresses and shoes.  They were wearing knee length dresses, so I specified a certain pair of shoes. I found them for the girls for less than $20. We gifted them jewelry and a hair accessory for the day of – I also have them clutches (that matched their dresses, so they could wear them if they wanted) and a mirror in the clutch (with a sticker on the back, their first initial). I then added in a little pedicure set (toe separaters, nail file, etc) and a matching sleep mask.

Post # 11
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Do you mean $100 for the suit? If so, that is about the price of a tuxedo, if not less! 

If not, you could “gift” the GM’s the ties, etc but they be responsible for the suit. Espically in this case (more so than the BMs), they will be able to wear those suits again so asking them to pay is not a big deal.

Post # 12
190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

The Bridesmaid or Best Man are buying their dresses and I will purchase shoes and other gifts for them.

My Fiance is paying for the rental of his Groomsmen tuxes as their present.

Post # 13
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Our attendants are paying for their own. I’m paying for their hair updo’s though. I specifically had them choose cute dresses they could wear again so it wouldn’t be a waste of money.

Post # 14
890 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I split the cost with all my bridesmaids so everyone had to pay $95 out of their own pocket.  Everyone liked it this way.  The groomsmen, well my Fi is buying his and his groomsmen have to either rent their own or buy whatever they want.  We purchased our flower girls and ring bearer outfits because they are our niece and nephew so its a treat to them, they are only 2 :).  I agree with the rest of the bees its up to the bride. If we decided to get everyones the Bridesmaid or Best Man alone would have been over 1000. Also about the same for the Groomsmen. 🙂  So the way we did made it fincially possible for everyone. As for their shoes that is included in my gifts to them with all the other goodies 🙂  

Post # 15
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

It’s definitely up to you and your Fiance to decide. Both options are acceptable.

For my DH and I we paid for everyone’s attire, the girl’s hair and make up as well. My rule of thumb is: if we’re requiring it, we’re paying for it.

Post # 16
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

My bridesmaids paid for their dresses ($98) and their own alterations if they wanted them (only one actually got alterations). I paid for their pashmina shawls, footwear and jewellery (which was their gift). They were all responsible for doing their own hair and makeup or getting it done if they wanted (none did).

Our groomsmen paid for their own shirts and pants (I think it ended up being $120) and we bought them their suspendors and they just wore black shoes they already had.

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