(Closed) Who pays for wedding party attire?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
1866 posts
Buzzing bee

@Happy7:  From my experience, the wedding party pays for their own attire.  For bridesmaids, I think most women expect to pay for their own dresses if they are a bridesmaid, but for shoes, accessories and other items, sometimes the bride will pay if she has a lot of things she is making the girls buy.  For me, my BM’s are paying for their own dresses, they can wear whatever shoes they want (so I’m not paying for shoes), they can wear whatever earrings they want (so I’m not paying for earrings) and then I will probably purchase them a bracelet or a necklace to wear.  

Post # 18
811 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Since my daughter is my Maid/Matron of Honor and my sons are the best men, we’ll be paying for all of their attire.

Post # 19
2081 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1993

I’m a UK bride – I’m paying for everything: dress, shoes, accessories etc. It’s the done thing over here!

Post # 20
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

In the UK, everyone pays for themselves, except for the bridesmaids and flower girl. The bride and groom pay for their dresses, and anything else they want them to wear (jewellery, shoes etc). That said, if you required the men in the bridal party to wear something unusual (other than a standard suit) then I assume you would pay for that as well.

I know it is different in the USA.

Post # 21
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Brides and grooms are not obligated to pay for their attendants’ attire.  They ARE, however, obligated to ask each individual attendant of their budget, and adhere to the lowest commmon denominator.  (Clothing only)

If you require a specific shoe, you must pay for it.  However, you can dictate a color and allow attendants to find one in their style, heel preference, and budget.

Post # 22
1098 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think they can pay for their own, if you have the means want to, that is a nice gesture. I’ve always paid for mine for weddings I have been in and it has never been a hassle for me.

Post # 23
373 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Our bridal party will be paying for their own attire for the day of. I just made sure what they could afford and went with that, it worked out really well they have now all purchased their attire except for the best man but he’s been away for a few months he’s going this weekend. We wil be paying for the ring bearer and flower girl dress, the ring bearer is my nephew and I know his mom can’t afford to spend $150.00 for a tux rental so that’s why I did that and our flower girls parents can’t afford it either so we offered to buy that too.

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