Post # 1
What is usually the standard for who pays for what
TO my understanding brides parents pay for wedding groom pays for honeymoon..in general..
what have you heard is the standard, has your family gotten in any fights over this?
Post # 3
I think the traditional rule is that bride’s parents pay for ceremony/reception and grooms parents pay for rehersal dinner/wedding rings/honeymoon.
That being said… It doesn’t seem anyone really follows these rules anymore. It is more on the couple to finance their own weddings and one or both sets of parents may contribute a certain amount.
Post # 4
There are so many different lists. For us, its my parents are paying for reception venue (minus the bar tab which will be paid by his parents). A lot of the smaller details, me and my guy are paying for ourselves
Post # 5
Traditionally, bride’s parents pay for the wedding while groom’s parents pay for the rehearsal dinner, rings, etc.
I don’t really hear of any parents paying for honeymoons at all anymore, it sounds like the couple is usually paying for this if they can afford to go. Also, it seems like the couple puts a lot of money in towards the wedding itself, therefore, the bride’s parents do not pay for EVERYTHING.
We paid for about $7,500 of our wedding (NOT including rings or honeymoon- if you factor in rings and honeymoon/minimoon we paid for $15,000). While our parents paid off the remainder. Based on how much each of parents were giving us we just asked them to pay for things here and there and didn’t restrict them to certain things based on tradition.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2010 - Kindred Oaks, Georgetown
My dad sent me this article recently: http://weddings.about.com/od/getorganized/a/WhoPays.htm?r=et. It helped us figure out who was gonna pay for what.
Post # 7
My parents are paying for the entire wedding and reception. My Fiance and I are paying for the rings and honeymoon. My FI’s parents are paying for the rehersal dinner. I think this is the traditional way with a bit of a modern twist.
Post # 8
My grandma is paying for the ceremony and his parents are paying for reception we are paying for rings and honeymoon.
Post # 9
traditionally, yeah the brides parents pay for specific things, but it’s widely accepted that this doesn’t always pan out this way.
I think generally speaking, the majority of weddings have everybody contributing
Post # 10
Theres even a tradition that the grooms family pays for the brides bouquet… =)
Tradtion is what you make though … imo
Post # 11
My parents insisted on paying for the entire wedding but then got very angry when FH’s family could not afford to pay for the rehearsal dinner or really anything wedding-related. My parents are VERY traditional. We insisted that was not a problem and that FH and I could just pay for the rehearsal dinner, but my parents said that was ridiculous and that we shouldn’t have to pay anything. So now they are paying for the dinner too. They are still bitter about it though and make weird snide comments from time to time (to me, thankfully not to FH or his family.) So yes, I would say it’s caused some drama.
FH and I have paid for our own pre-marital prep (we are catholic so there has been a lot of this and pretty expensive), we’re paying for our own rings and our own honeymoon. I also put about $500 towards the cake and the DJ.
Post # 12
I wish ANY parents were paying for ANYTHING in our case.
(But I think you do have the general tradition right.)
Post # 13
we went to each of our parents and asked what they could give. my parents are giving considerably more, but FH parents are definitely giving more than is “traditional.” With that money, we make the decisions and if we spend less, we still get that amount from our families. It definitely makes us rethink each spending decision!
Post # 14
I wouldn’t know, we pqaid for it all ourselves.
Post # 15
There are so many different versions of this. Growing up I always thought it was the brides parents pay for the wedding and the grooms the rehearsal dinner. However, in our case my parents are helping out where they can and we are picking up the tab. They are paying for certain vendors and the rest us.
Post # 16
From what I’ve heard, the bride’s family pays for the wedding and the groom’s parents pay for the rehearsal dinner/honeymoon. In our case, his parents and my parents paid for half each.