(Closed) Who pays for what?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

It’s all up to you and your BMs but traditionally –

BMs pay for their outfit, their accomodation, bachelorette and/or shower

Bride pays for gifts

Grey area – shoes, jewelry, hair and make up

Post # 4
525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It really does depend on your and your bridesmaids. I’m paying for their dresses, shoes, and gifts.

They are paying for a bachelorette party and thair hair/makeup. As far as I’m concerned, they can wear whatever jewelry they want – it can be new/old/borrowed – I don’t care.

Post # 5
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

In the US, the BMs pay for their dresses & alterations.  I believe in the UK the bride pays for the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses.

I’d probably talk with your BMs privately & individually first to make sure you have an idea of their budget, and how much they can comfortably spend.  Then, either select a dress that fits the lowest BM’s budget or offer to cover the difference.  Remember to take into account that most people need at least minor alterations as well.

If you require professional hair, make-up, or a specific pair of shoes, it is ideal that you cover those costs.  I didn’t have that kind of loot laying around so I let my girls do their own hair & make-up if they chose, but two of them still decided to get their hair professionally done.  I also didn’t want them to fork over even more money for new shoes for one day, I told them to wear black shoes (since pretty much every lady I’ve ever met has a pair of black dress shoes or sandals!)

Post # 6
1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Generally speaking, in the US bridesmaids purchase their dresses and (in the UK and Australia and probably other places it seems like the bride purchases them).  In the US, BMs also usually kick in for showers and bachelorette parties.

Brides should cover anything “required” of BMs beyond the dress….so if you want them to wear a specific shoe or require they get their hair/makeup/nails done professionally, then you should probably cover that expense.  More general requests like “wear any neutral tone shoe” or something else they likely already own and can tailor to their style/comfort usually frees the bride from paying but of course means you don’t get to pick these things.  If you’re having a professional hair/makeup artist come but using these services is optional, then BMs pay if they want to get it done.

Post # 8
1598 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’ve recently discovered that the answer to this questions varies greatly depending on the region and the people.

Where I live and with most weddings I’ve been in/to, this is the standard:

* BMs pay for their dress, alterations, and shoes

* BMs (and female relatives close to the bride) all contribute for a shower and/or bachlorette party/bridesmaid luncheon

* Bride pays for jewelery and other Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts like tote bags, makeup cases, robes, etc.

* Bride pays for bouqets or any “specific” accessories she wants all the BMs to have.

* Depending on the bride’s budget, she will offer to pay for hair/makeup/manicure/pedicures. Or sometimes the BMs pay for these things themselves. It just depends on the social circle in my experience.











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