Post # 92
Lion and I are prepared to pay for it all ourselves, I’m trying to find every conceivable way to have the essentials of my vision on a very small budget which includes major DIY’s but I have to admit I do hope daddy can help just a little, heck any help would be appreciated from any family be it labour/money/emotional support.
I understand putting money in, especially on certain things, involves input. I don’t blame a bride however for being upset at a dress she would never wear, if mom is paying for it then both parties need to agree, you shouldn’t have to wear a dress you despise but if you can’t find one mom approves of you can’t ask her to pay either.
I think it requires reasonable expectations and mutual respect.
Some parents WANT to pay for their kid’s weddings, some don’t. For some it’s a matter of pride or tradition. I absolutely do not think it’s fair to bash someone because their family is paying, if they’re being ungrateful then it’s their attitude that’s wrong, not who’s paying for it.
Post # 93
Our parents are paying for most of it. I’m doing a lot of my own stuff myself like dress, jewellry, rings, gifts.
Post # 94
We’re paying for most of our ~$15000 wedding ourselves. Fiance and I both just finished college this year and we’ve got some small student loans to pay off and our jobs aren’t exactly all that well paying. Both Fiance and I wanted no part of the wedding to be on credit, everything needs to be paid off with money we have.
FI’s parents have graceously offered to pay for our flowers. I’m trying to not ask for anything over the top or extravagant, and I’m thankful that they offered.
I know my parents will be giving us a wedding gift of about 10k because that is what my sister received at her wedding two years ago. They’re very good about being fair. They’ve offered us advances of this money if we needed it for deposits, but so far so good. I’m just really glad that their financial help is coming as a gift and therefore has no strings attached. We’re planning to use it for the honeymoon and as a starter nest egg.
Between what we’re getting from my parents and wedding gifts the whole thing is probably going to break even in the end. I’m very happy about that. I’m also very happy that my parents are not interested in taking over the planning of the wedding and dictating how the money they want to give us is spent.