(Closed) Who pays?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Usually the bridesmaids buy their own dresses. I covered mine…mostly b/c my mom made them. I still paid for the material and I’m treating my mom to dinner for all her hard work! However, that being said, if you pick something inexpensive and rewearable, it’s totally not an issue for her to buy it herself and it doesn’t sound like you’re going to pick out $300 dresses anyways! But, since she is buying a plane ticket, I think it’d be nice if you included it as part of her "gift" like i am. I did jewelry, hair, and dresses for my ladies as their gifts. They don’t necessarily have an armful of goodies to go home with, but they’ve all told me how awesome it is that i didn’t make them buy their own dress and then expect them to do shower gifts, bachelorette gifts, wedding gift, hair, makeup, etc. Half are still in college and planning their own wedding so I tried to be considerate. So, likewise, take into consideration their financial situations, but it sounds like you’re on top of that.  

As for the best man, usually they rent their own tuxes. We picked out really expensive ones (like $170, eek) so my Fiance put $50 towards their tux so the rentals minus shoes were like $95 which is more like your average priced tux on the low end of things. Again, a nice gesture if you can afford it and you are having a small enough wedding party to lump it as a gift. Could the Bridesmaid or Best Man wear a nice suit? 

Just be considerate of their money situation and you will be fine.  

Post # 5
2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Most of the weddings I have been in or been to had their Maid/Matron of Honor and BMs to pay for their own dresses. The guys also had to pay for their own tuxes.

It really comes down to whether it is in your budget. I will probably be helping my sister get her Maid/Matron of Honor dress because she is going through some hard times now.

If you choose to have your attendants pay for their own gear then be considerate of the price tags that come along with the dresses and tuxes.

Post # 6
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

i think its pretty typical for wedding party to pay for their own attire. my bms and moh are doing so, but im letting them choose their own dresses so they can determine what they are comfortable spending.

Post # 7
3332 posts
Sugar bee

Everytime I’ve been in a wedding (including my own) the wedding party members have been responsible for paying for their own attire.  I knew I wanted to help keep costs manageable for my Bridesmaid or Best Man, so I had them buy dresses from JCrew that they each were able to find on Final Sale.  I think if you try to keep their price range in mind when choosing, they would be appreciative.

Oh and if you find that $100 tree, let me know! 😉 

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