Post # 1
I was looking up potential honeymoon locations last night (not very seriously, but more just having fun and drooling) and my bf fussed at me because he said it was 100% his job and is looking forward to surprising me. Not sure if he actually wants to tell me at the airport level of surprise or just tell me after he’s booked it surprise.
But it surprised me that he wanted 100% control on the destination. I’m Okay with it since he’s passionate about it, but just curious if that’s a common mindset.
Post # 2
I narrowed it down to 2 or 3 places within our budget and he made the final decision.
I would hate for it to be fully a surprise because I like to plan and research lol.
Post # 3
I told him he was in charge of the honeymoon because I didn’t want to do it myself and spend time obsessing and comparing trips. Two days later it was all done. If only the rest of wedding planning could be done so quickly lol.
Post # 4
Lol him surprising me would not have been an option for us. I hate surprises, and it was OUR trip. We both wanted input. I’ve never heard of a groom totally surprising the bride for a honeymooon, and I think it’s very presumptuous unless that’s what you both prefer – or at least something you are okay with.
We narrowed down places together, decided together, booked hotels, flights, and excursions together. While most things went on his card, we decided the budget together since we were planning to combine finances so for all intents and purposes it was coming out of OUR money. I ended up doing the majority of the final bookings and organizing the itinerary since I’m more of a planner than he is (and have much more international travel experience than he did), but we both sent each other options of hotels/places etc we liked and we ran everything by each other. Neither of us made any decisions without consulting the other.
Post # 5
Yeah… I always assumed it would be a joint decision but I trust him to find an amazing place. He’s done a lot of traveling and enjoys nice vacations but is also budget savvy. So if he wants to plan it so much, I’ll let him. There will be plenty of other joint trips for me to plan with him.
But I really hope he tells me so I can get excited about it and pack appropriately… and because I hate waiting for surprises.
Post # 6
I plan all of our trips. He isn’t a planner at all and I love that kind of thing. I’m lucky I found someone who just goes along with whatever I plan, and likes it that way.
Post # 7
We are in process choosing since I’m a waiting bee – but essentially we had a discussion about where did and didn’t work in our budget (we could do anywhere in the continental US or Canada) and then where would be safe for me with my photosensitivity (have to stay North of Tennessee as much as possible) and then what each of us wanted to do (we settled on wanting something with pretty places to take walks/hikes, good food, and good museums). We landed on probalby three options and we’ll choose together when it’s time! But absolutely a joint decision. If he wants to do a surprise that’s very cute though!! I know we’ve done “Here’s where we’re goign but I’m making the itinerary” trips before. Those were always fun!
Post # 8
I’ve never heard of it being a mans decision to choose the honeymoon, is that a thing or just his take on it? I guess if you’re ok with it being a surprise then that works!
My husband and I already had a trip planned before we got engaged, that happened to be a week after our wedding date so we just used that as our honeymoon.
Typically when we are going to be doing any travel we both decide on where but I typically do all of the research and booking because I enjoy it, but my I consult him with everything first so everything we’re doing is something we both want to do.
Post # 9
We agreed on the destination together, but he got to choose the hotels and plan a lot of the excursions.
Post # 10
- Wedding: February 2018 - UK
I’ve never heard of this being something that just the man does. We planned ours together. I wouldn’t like not knowing, that sort of surprise would just panic me, I can’t stand not knowing where I’m going!
Post # 11
That is ridiculous and totally untrue. If you want to be involved you should insist.
Post # 12
A surprise honeymoon would be tough! Part of the fun is the planning what you’ll do there and getting excited about it (but i’m also a day dreaming research nerd). Also packing could be an issue. Just make sure he at least tells you what genre of trip it’ll be – lazy beach, adventure-y etc.
For ours we decided on the location(s) 100% together, but I probably did more of the research and booking because I love it and long term planning is more my jam.
Post # 13
I’ve never heard of it being the groom’s job to pick the honeymoon himself. I would absolutely HATE it if my Fiance tried insisting that it was his “job” to pick and plan the honeymoon, and I’d be pretty upset with him for assuming he could just make that decision himself. But I suppose everyone is different and every couple has a different dynamic. We will be deciding on our honeymoon together, although the day-to-day activity planning will fall on me because if it were up to him we would just wing it, and I have to have everything planned out or I stress lol.
Post # 14
My husband absolutely gets overwhelmed with decisions, and he never traveled before he met me. So I asked him if he’d be happy to go see Alaska and he said yes, we went in the summer and it was beautiful. He’s big into wilderness, so I knew he’d love it. I definitely tried to pick something I knew we could afford and that both of us would enjoy. We did pick the excursions together, but hotels, flights, the cruise, etc. were all picked by me. It was an amazing memory.
Post # 15
Haha my husband isn’t a planner at all with vacations. He loves to be involved with decisions regarding anything else, but vacations he kind of just lets me do my thing. I basically told him that when I was younger I had dreamed of staying in an overwater bungalow one day, and once I showed him pictures he was totally on board. I’m the one that’s budget savvy and l love researching places to stay/ things to do so I did the planning, showed him quick and then booked things.