Who picked the honeymoon locale?

posted 2 years ago in Honeymoons
  • poll: Who planned the honeymoon?

    Him! It was a total surprise

    Him! But, he told me right away.

    We narrowed it down but he made the final call

    Me!! He’s not a planner

    100% joint decision all the way

  • Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    My fiance isn’t much of a planner, but he certainly wanted to go somewhere tropical. Since I’m afraid of the Zika virus, I told him that Bermuda was really our only viable option, and he was 100% okay with that. 

    But if it were up to me, we would go to Alaska or Ireland or something XD I will still enjoy myself! 

    Post # 17
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    Buzzing bee

    hahaha No way, Jose. My husband could have asked if he could have control over the honeymoon, but no way in hell would he ever FUSS AT ME and TELL me that it was “his job.” That’s some patriarchal bs right there. 

    If you want to be involved, be involved. If you want him to surprise you, have him surprise you. But you should be INCLUDED in the decision of whether or not this is going to be a jointly-planned or surprise trip. Not lectured to like a child.

    DH and I just discussed all possible/desired options, then narrowed down based on budget and travel time/jet lag. We eventually narrowed it down to Bali or the Balkans, and the Balkans won because it’s so much closer. We didn’t want to lose 2 whole days to travel on each end.

    Then *I* went through and planned out out a full 3-week itinerary (because I’ve spent time in that region before and am familiar with it) and DH went through with my itinerary and booked most of our hotels/excursions. 

    Post # 19
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    It’s so much fun planning the honeymoon together and really is a great excuse to spend time together talking about your first days as a married couple and away from wedding planning chaos 🙂 My husband planned a few surprises throughout the honeymoon though (romance package on our wedding night, extra fancy dinner on our last night etc). 

    Post # 20
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

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    bibliophilacticbee :   Ours was pretty easy to pick since we’d been day dreaming about Maui for years! It had always been a mutual “we want to go there together some day” kind of thing and so when we found ourselves with the opportunity to go we figured we should go ahead and do it!

    Post # 21
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’m the planner and come up with trip ideas, but he has to agree on it, so i guess it’s a joint decision.  I really wanted to go to Italy for our honeymoon, but he wanted a relaxing lazy beach honeymoon.  I agreed and we went to St John, with the agreement that we go to Italy the following year. 

    Post # 22
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Traditionally the groom does organise the honeymoon. I think it came from when the couple would get married at the brides home and then travel to their new home / the grooms home. Sometimes that would be a longer journey and it would be up to the husband to sort it out. It would sometimes also include visits to relatives that could not travel to the wedding.

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    I had a completely surprise honeymoon. My fi was really excited to do it. He gleefully plotted it all with one of his best mates who is a travel agent.  It was very sweet.

    Normally I’m a planner and like to be in control, but I was happy to let him do this because I was planning most of the wedding and it was soooo nice not to have to plan something else! Also, I genuinely didn’t mind where we went, I would have found the positive in nearly any destination.

    In my experience, it is NOT normal or common these days for the groom to do it as a complete surprise. I know a few other couples who kept their destination a secret from their guests, but they still both knew where they were going. Most people were astonished and surprised that we chose to do it this way. Most thought I was very trusting! A few had tales of disaster, involving other couples they’d known where the groom had planned a surprise honeymoon that the bride hated, but I was never worried.

    I knew it wouldn’t be a beach holiday because neither of us like beaches, and I knew it wouldn’t be long-haul because we only had a week. I also had requested NOT to go to a few countries that I’ve been to before and particularly dislike.

    In the end he took me to a European country, which he remembered me saying once (before we were engaged) that I’d like to visit in summer (I’ve been before, but only in winter). He chose very well and we had a fantastic time.

    I found out where we were going once we got back to the hotel after the wedding. We weren’t leaving until a few days later, so I packed for myself.

    We are actually going on a holiday to what was his second-choice destination next year! It’s another place I’ve wanted to go for ages.

     

    Post # 25
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    Worker bee

    Lmao, I’m gay and we haven’t had any weddings in my social cirlce in a long time, so I had no idea having the husband plan the honeymoon was even a thing? We’re planning it together for sure. I’m taking the lead mostly because I always plan our trips, but I enjoy it so that’s okay.

    Post # 26
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    Sugar bee

    We actually both agreed we wanted to go to Northern Europe. But when we really talked in detail we decided we just wanted to go to one country so we both talked about it and both of us had Norway at the top of our list 🙂 So it was pretty easy. 

    I am the planner though so I planned the entire trip, what cities we went to and most of the activities. Some of the activities we planned the day of and I let him choose his favorite. I liked planning for him and he liked sitting back, relaxing and enjoying the honeymoon! 

    Post # 27
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    DH did. He really wanted to take me on a cruise since I’ve never been. It was originally going to be just a vacation, but we got engaged and married about a year and a half ahead of our original timeline, so it turned into our honeymoon. 

    Post # 28
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I always wanted to go to Greece, so when it was time he told me he wanted it to be Greece so I got the dream I wanted. We still sat down and looked over places we might want to go to make sure it was the best choice for both of us. 

     

    Post # 29
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

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    bibliophilacticbee :  If you are a US bee, look into Mo’orea. It’s Bora Bora’s sister island… just as nice, better snorkeling but not AS hefty of a price tag. I booked for during the high season for about 600$ a night US (Canadian it was a bit more for us), but if you keep your eye out, the deals will fluctuate by about 100$ or so throughout the week. 

    Post # 30
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2021

    I never even considered having my future fiance plan the honeymoon… I love it!

    Historically, I have taken the lead in planning our vacations and my SO has been very appreciative of it; however, I would love to be surprised! Of course I have a couple places on my bucket list but I plan to explore them all at some point in my lifetime no matter what.

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