(Closed) Who plans and who attends the rehersal dinner?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

from what i understand is customary… the grooms parents plan the Rehearsal Dinner.. and the bridal party and parents and grandparents attend… but nowadays things are so different… were planning our own Rehearsal Dinner and including it in our budget… havent decided who is invited yet

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

from what i understand is customary… the grooms parents plan the Rehearsal Dinner.. and the bridal party and parents and grandparents attend… but nowadays things are so different… were planning our own Rehearsal Dinner and including it in our budget… havent decided who is invited yet

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

With what I am familiar with, it is custom that the grooms parents to plan, send invites and pay for the rehearsal dinner. But that is based off of the tradition of the brides parents are paying for the majority of other wedding expenses.

Typically, I believe it is the entire wedding party, any other persons you asked to be  involved in the ceremony (example: Reader, usher) and the parents.

 

With destination weddings, it is common to invite a greater variation of people.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

My FIL’s are paying for our rehearsal dinner. We are inviting everyone in the bridal party plus their SO’s, both sets of parents, all grandparents and our officiant (my cousin) and her SO.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

In additions to what CaitMarae said, it is “etiquette” to invite out of town guests.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

LOL, two weddings, for me it’s more like three.  We decided that a bbq at our house was the best for our situation.  It also gives my FH the opportunity to smoke meat, he just loves to show off his skills on a smoker.  Luckily for me it was all his idea and I am leaving all the planning for rehearsal dinner up to him.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Nowadays tradition is thrown out the window for the rehearsal dinner and people are doing what feels right to them or what works. We did a BBQ for all of our Out of Town guests and it was mostly paid for by my dad and planned by my Future Mother-In-Law. At first i was worried about all Out of Town guests being there and thought it would be too overwhelming but I really enjoyed it and it gave us a chance to spend extra time with all of our guests – making it so that we didnt feel like we had to talk to everyone on the night of our actual wedding.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Hi date twin! 🙂

We just finished our list for Future Mother-In-Law.  We are having a casual rehearsall at a local pizza place – pizza, pasta, salads, etc.

Our list is as follows:

Wedding Party + Dates

Parents

Grandparents

Ring Bearers/Flower Girls and Parents

Singers and Dates

Officiant and Family

I think that’s it. We are inviting right at 50 I believe.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

We won’t be inviting Out of Town guests because Future Mother-In-Law is paying and I couldn’t bring myself to ask her to pay for dinner for all of our friends (although traditionally that is how it is done).

She is planning it and I am COMPLETELY staying out of it.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@NYEGAL – I am really happy with our pizza decision.  Our wedding is in a small town, and there weren’t a lot of options to choose from.  Pizza, a really expensive place, and that’s about it.  We knew we would be having a larger rehearsal dinner, so even though Future Mother-In-Law gave us the option of either place, we chose the much more affordable one.  With pizza, pasta, salads, drinks, etc. buffet style, I think we are only spending $6-$7 per person, with free room rental.

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think usually the groom’s parents host it, but my FI’s family did say a word about it so we’re doing it. We’re inviting our immediate families, the officiant and her husband (who is also my aunt), our bridal party and their dates, and anyone from out of town who is in the night before the wedding. I might not have decided to do out of town guests if there was a lot of them, but we are having a saturday evening wedding and most people live within a 2.5 hour drive, so there shouldn’t be more than a handful of those (who are coming from across the country) who will be in the night before. 

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