Post # 1
I use the term date loosely – more like who suggests most of the social stuff you do together. Like movies, a day at the park, beach, dinner date, a night out with friends etc. I thought I would ask because in my relationship it is definitely skewed towards me planning or suggesting most of what we do. Sometimes I find this a bit tiring – it would be nice to have Mr. Valhalla take the reigns more often to plan some fun for us! He is working on it though 🙂
How about your relationship? Do you plan more? Is he always making plans? Or do you split it equally?
Post # 3
T does for sure. He always comes up with a plan for something.
Usually after a long day of work I’m super tired and the last thing I want to do is plan a date.
He’s good like that altough sometimes I do! (usually for holidays)
Post # 4
Definitely me! The husband has a block against planning and I can’t stop the date ideas from flowing.
Post # 5
Me!!! Im a planner by nature and he can wait until the day of something to make up his mind. I plan all our little activities, what we do for dinner (though he has in input on this one), parties, etc.
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Definitely me! He generally won’t plan anything unless I specifically ask him to.
Post # 7
I think we both do it equally! But it’s not so much planning it’s more like hey do you want to do _______ tonight? But we equally suggest fun stuff to each other!
Post # 8
He does…and I have to admit he has come up with some great date nights/days including a lot of stuff I would have never thought of or would do on my own. Only one date- he’s a funeral director and it included work- was not such a big hit, but it is a night we still talk about.
Post # 9
Most of the time we just kind of come up with it together. If we feel like doing something we’ll talk about what we could do and then decide. Sometimes he has work parties and he’s terrible about giving me notice. On Friday he’ll be like “Oh btw, we have Bob’s party tomorrow.” Which usually means I have to make some kind of dish lol.
Post # 10
We’re… kinda boring, actually. I think that’s something we really need to get better about doing, planning fun stuff for us to do instead of going to our favorite sushi place and renting a movie (we like to snuggle!). Hmmm… need to jump on that. When we do actually do things, he usually comes up with the idea! Go him!
Post # 11
I do, always have, but then I basically have my kids 100% of the time so I have to plan around them. The Boy is pretty open to doing whatever I want. Usually, when we’re kid free we just go to dinner and then come home to be alone with each other.
When I think about it, he’s only planned like one thing we’ve done. I even planned the first date! He wanted to take me to dinner and a movie which is so NOT him, so I suggested going to a bar instead. Now I have to harass him and tell him he has to plan some date for us. lol…
Post # 12
When we’re in the same city, we usually just wake up and say, “I feel like doing something today, how about you?” and it goes from there. Neither one of us really plans anything. =P
Post # 13
We don’t really do too much planning. His schedule is so crazy sometimes we just do things when we can. It’s kind of hard b/c of the distance so we usually end up on the couch talking and gazing into each other’s eyes….LOL. Exciting stuff huh?
Post # 14
I’d say its about 2/3 me 1/3 him. He definitely suggests stuff sometimes, but the more frequent thing is me suggesting. Sometimes we both get frustrated and do the “what do you wanna do?” “I dunno, what do you wanna do?” “I don’t care… you pick” “well I don’t care either you pick…” hehe
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2010 - Catholic Ceremony, Cultural Hall Reception
He does! Mr. Pudding thinks that it’s very important for us to have a date night at least once a week. Since I moved here about two months ago, I don’t know many people in Vermont yet, so I don’t get out of the house often. It’s his way of helping me feel integrated.
If it was up to me, we’d be on the couch, eating Ben and Jerry’s, and watching reality tv every night!
Post # 16
Ah Corgi, I am familiar with the back and forth “what do you wanna do” “I don’t care, what do you wanna do” battle. This usually happens when I am all out of ideas, and more often than not I either have to think up somthing or we end up doing nothing. Which sometimes is fine, but can also be frustrating.
Miss Pudding – I also initially moved to British Columbia to be with Mr. Valhalla, but we were a bit different because we were both new here. It’s a good thing we had each other! But sometimes I still felt socially isolated until I finally made some new friends. It was also major culture shock – being a Maritimer moving the the West Coast came with some changes!