(Closed) Who plans most of your “dates” in your relationship?

posted 11 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

T does for sure.  He always comes up with a plan for something.

Usually after a long day of work I’m super tired and the last thing I want to do is plan a date.

He’s good like that altough sometimes I do!  (usually for holidays) 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Definitely me! The husband has a block against planning and I can’t stop the date ideas from flowing.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Me!!! Im a planner by nature and he can wait until the day of something to make up his mind.  I plan all our little activities, what we do for dinner (though he has in input on this one), parties, etc.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

Definitely me! He generally won’t plan anything unless I specifically ask him to.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think we both do it equally! But it’s not so much planning it’s more like hey do you want to do _______ tonight? But we equally suggest fun stuff to each other!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

He does…and I have to admit he has come up with some great date nights/days including a lot of stuff I would have never thought of or would do on my own.  Only one date- he’s a funeral director and it included work- was not such a big hit, but it is a night we still talk about.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Most of the time we just kind of come up with it together. If we feel like doing something we’ll talk about what we could do and then decide. Sometimes he has work parties and he’s terrible about giving me notice. On Friday he’ll be like “Oh btw, we have Bob’s party tomorrow.” Which usually means I have to make some kind of dish lol.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We’re… kinda boring, actually. I think that’s something we really need to get better about doing, planning fun stuff for us to do instead of going to our favorite sushi place and renting a movie (we like to snuggle!). Hmmm… need to jump on that. When we do actually do things, he usually comes up with the idea! Go him!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I do, always have, but then I basically have my kids 100% of the time so I have to plan around them. The Boy is pretty open to doing whatever I want. Usually, when we’re kid free we just go to dinner and then come home to be alone with each other. 

When I think about it, he’s only planned like one thing we’ve done. I even planned the first date! He wanted to take me to dinner and a movie which is so NOT him, so I suggested going to a bar instead. Now I have to harass him and tell him he has to plan some date for us. lol… 

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

When we’re in the same city, we usually just wake up and say, “I feel like doing something today, how about you?” and it goes from there.  Neither one of us really plans anything.  =P

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We don’t really do too much planning. His schedule is so crazy sometimes we just do things when we can. It’s kind of hard b/c of the distance so we usually end up on the couch talking and gazing into each other’s eyes….LOL. Exciting stuff huh?

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’d say its about 2/3 me 1/3 him. He definitely suggests stuff sometimes, but the more frequent thing is me suggesting. Sometimes we both get frustrated and do the “what do you wanna do?” “I dunno, what do you wanna do?” “I don’t care… you pick” “well I don’t care either you pick…” hehe

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - Catholic Ceremony, Cultural Hall Reception

He does!  Mr. Pudding thinks that it’s very important for us to have a date night at least once a week.  Since I moved here about two months ago, I don’t know many people in Vermont yet, so I don’t get out of the house often.  It’s his way of helping me feel integrated.

If it was up to me, we’d be on the couch, eating Ben and Jerry’s, and watching reality tv every night!

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