(Closed) Who plans the baby shower?

posted 10 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

  Anyone who wants to throw a shower is allowed too! My mom, aunt and grandma threw mine. I had a seperate one that one of my friends threw for all of our other friends to attend. Now adays there really is no “rule” to who throws the baby shower.

 Let anyone who wants to throw one throw it! (it only helps you the more out in the end! hehe)

Post # 4
5976 posts
Bee Keeper

I agree that anyone can throw you a baby shower! I would try to stay out of the details of it. The last thing you need in your condition is more stress…and it’s in your honor, so let everyone else do it for you!

Post # 5
3363 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I actually thought the mom-to-be’s mother generally did it?  Or a sister.  But I agree, anyone can throw it!

Post # 6
2029 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Traditionally, this is the duty of your Maid/Matron of Honor. But today anyone who wants to can host.

Post # 7
2738 posts
Sugar bee

Well, if you have girlfriends who you know want to throw the shower, put them in touch with your sister and your aunt and let them take it from there. I know some women would rather have just one shower than a multitude.

Post # 8
1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2000

Along the lines of your mom’s thinking, I think the ‘old school’ tradition was that immediate (maybe extended too?) family was not supposed to throw you a shower themselves. If your sister is not a great planner, definitely hook her up with your friends who could help plan. These days, anyone throws anyone a shower. I think even moms-to-be help to a  certain extent but that’s not the norm.

Just found out that we will have a total of 4 showers: Couples one (DH friends mainly), a family one, a girlfriends one and my co-workers one. We can’t combine anymore than this b/c they would be too big. Everybody loves babies!

Post # 9
869 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

My FI’s aunt, sister, and SIL threw mine. It wasn’t a big one and only 2 people outside of his family came and they were both friends of ours. Not one person in my family showed up. 🙁 I agree with most of the people on here though. Let anyone and everyone throw it for you. my FI’s SIL had one thrown for her by my FBIL’s family and then another by her family since they couldn’t make it to the first one. It’s not unheard of for people to have 2-3 baby showers so just go with it!

Post # 10
10283 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Pretty much anyone who wants to. I’ve personally been to baby showers that were thrown by the following:

  • Best friend of expecting mom
  • Soon to be grandmother
  • Soon to be aunt
  • Soon to be great-grandmother
  • Family friends of expecting mom

A baby shower isn’t like a bridal shower where certain people are “expected” to take the reins. 

Post # 11
439 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I helped my Mother-In-Law throw a shower for SIL, basically because her BFF is a flake and Mother-In-Law didn’t trust it would happen otherwise {and all the aunts plus my other SIL are out-of-town}.

I think it’s fine for anyone {but the mom-to-be!} to host it!

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