Post # 1
Good evening Bees!
I need a little clarification. I have 4 BMs in my bridal party. No Maid/Matron of Honor, just four ladies I love equally. 🙂
My wedding is in 4 months and some of the girls have started asking me what I want to do for the b party.
When do I want to have it? Where do I want to have it? What are we going to do? Who is invited? Can we have penis cake???
I have no problem letting them know I am endlessly amused by penis paraphernalia, but is it really up to me to plan every detail of what we do? I keep trying to say they should check with the other girls regarding schedules and such. I didn’t think it was my job to have to coordinate when everyone is free. I certainly don’t mind being consulted, but I don’t really want to plan the whole shebang. Maybe that’s just my indecisiveness talking. I have a hard time making decisions, and any & all wedding related decisions stress me out! I’m probably completely overthinking all of this.
Post # 3
If I were you I would put two of them in charge of the bridal shower and two of them in charge of the bachelorette party so it will be easier than all four of them having to come together on all the decisions. And yes you can have all of the penis stuff you want 🙂
Post # 4
Haha yay penis stuff!
One thing that I’ve noticed is WHO has been talking to me about the shower and the bach party. Two of my BMs are living in north Louisiana (where I’m from) and two in south Louisiana (where I currently live and am getting married). Only my two southern girls have talked to me about the shower/party. Why they aren’t discussing this with each other, I have no idea lol.
But my two northern girls have said zip about anything. If they don’t speak up, all of the activities will be planned for south LA, which is a 4 hour trip one way for them. But I don’t want to seem like I’m demanding anything out of them, ya know? I tried sending out an email to all of them going “In case you want to talk to each other, here is everyone’s email addresses….”
Post # 5
I’m just like you..i have 3 bridesmaids and they are all just bridesmaids, no Maid/Matron of Honor or anything fancy. I initially told them I was thinking maybe wine tasting in Temecula, CA and then then after that one volunteered on her own to email my list of friends which i provided, and start getting ideas..while another one just volunteered to plan my shower. Thank goodness because I have no family or relatives here to plan any parties for me. The third one lives further away from us and she doesnt know any of my other friends so it made sense for the other two to plan both occasions. Sooo you can just start talking to your girls and see who is closest relationship to you and wants to plan what event..it would be nice if they have an idea of which girl you want to plan..they probably want to know what you want to do, and who you want out of the group to start planning what..you dont need to give them a list of specifics or else you might come off to strong…just give them a general idea of what you are interested in doing..and that you’re up for anything else they can think of together…in this way, everyone can be happy with the activities and budget etc.
Post # 6
I’m planning mine and probably paying for it too… as well as a bridal shower if I decide to have one… sigh.