(Closed) Who sat/ will sit at your top table?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 16
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Bumble bee

Most wedding I’ve been to had all the bridesmaids, Maid/Matron of Honor, bride, groom, Bridesmaid or Best Man, all groomsmen. But yeah, it sucks when you go to a wedding with your SO and know no one and have to sit alone. We don’t want to do that to out wedding party but also don’t want a sweet table. We are doing date of Maid/Matron of Honor, MOH, Bride, groom, best man, BM’s date. It doesn’t matter if I know them or not. I love our Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man, they love their SO’s, so I love their SO’s. And they aren’t gonna be close enough to me to talk to anyways. 

Post # 17
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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EllyAnne:  Why not have a sweetheart table, just with your husband and you? I personally think it’s kind of rude to separate couples (esp. if they don’t know other people). Sure, they may say they can catch up with other people but I guarantee they’d rather sit with their date/spouse/SO. Just my opinion. 

Post # 18
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

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EllyAnne:  have you considered a sweetheart table for just you and your husband and then having the family and bridal party tables next to yours? That’s what we did and it was really nice to have that time with just my husband and the bridal party got to sit with their dates (most of which were married or engaged)

Post # 19
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

We had just us and most the wedding party. I asked if people would rather be with their dates, no pressure, and just one opted to. (Her date didnt know another soul there, everyone else’s dates had lots of friends present to sit with). We put them at the table right next to us. 

I’m not into sweetheart tables. It’s antisocial to me. I have the rest of my life to dine alone with my husband. It’s a one in a lifetime celebratory meal, it’s fun to share with your nearest and dearest.  

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee

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MrsFiveOh:  Completely agree.  I went to a wedding once where H was in the wedding and I knew no one but the bride, groom and my H.  And unlike what a PP said, no it isn’t just an hour that you will be separated from your SO.  It is much longer.  The entire ceremony and cocktail hour.  Add in dinner and you are looking at up to 3 hours or more.  That makes for a long and pretty boring time when you know no one.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

We are having a head table. bridesmaids on my side, groomsmen on FH side. Significant others will be at a table together but I will say we are all close and know each other so its not weird. This was the way it was done at my best friends wedding when I was her Maid/Matron of Honor and my fiance sat the the significant others table. It wasn’t long. Just to eat then we were up dancing. Some people don’t like it but from someone who has been the party member at the table it really didn’t bother me and if its what the couple wants its their day so let them have the set up they want. but thats my personal opinion. 

Post # 23
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I’ve hated every time I or my Fiance has had to sit at a head table. Please do not split people up! We are having a sweetheart table and will sit our bridal party with their dates and people they know.

Post # 24
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Helper bee

We are doing a head table with spouses. My groom and I will be in the middle. On my side will be my bridal party with their spouses and his side will be his groomsmen with spouses.

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We had a sweetheart table and then my immediate family at one table and my husband’s immediate family at the next table. 

Post # 26
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i sat at “sweetheart table” with DH.  we split up wedding party.  1) so they could sit with their SOs and 2) the wedding party is not neccessarily friends with each other so we sat them with who they would want to be seated with.

 

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

We’re going to have a round table for the “top table”, which will be my Fiance and I and our immediate family and partners.

For my brother’s wedding, he had a long top table, but did the same thing.

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We had just us and both sets of parents but we broke the traditional order and sat the mums together and the dads together. My dad and DHs mum don’t speak a common language and his parents are divorced so it seemed like the best solution.

i had my sis as Maid/Matron of Honor and she sat with our cousins and their families and the two best men sat with their wives. They’re good friend living on opposite sides of the world so we’re happy to catch up.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

We couldnt fit our bridal party at the head table so my ladies sat a table with their dates and so did his and then our parents sat at the head table with us. 

Post # 30
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Blushing bee

Last wedding I went to, my Fiance was in the wedding party. They sat me at the very very last table, in a completely seperate room from my Fiance. I knew NOBODY. It was completely uncomfortable and I hated every second of it. Now that I am getting married, I am going to try to keep SO at the same table as head table with both groomsmen and bridesmaids. However, we are all friends, SO and wedding party, except one bridesmaid’s husband. So, we will see.

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