(Closed) Who should actually get mom’s engagement ring.?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Can you dig up old pictures to find out who she was with when she wore that ring? It sounds like your sister does deserve it, but you might just have to tick off your brother to give it to her. 🙁

Post # 4
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1267 posts
Bumble bee

That’s a really difficult one!  I can understand that although it’s all of your Mom’s ring, he would also have the extra sentimentality of it being his Father’s ring, as well.  However, since that can’t be confirmed it’s not really fair to assume it and give it to his daughter.  The only thing you know for sure is that it’s your Mom’s and if your sister was there for her til the end it should go to her.

Now, if you can dig up any photos of her during the time she was married to your brother’s Dad and she is wearing the ring, I think it should go to the granddaughter of your Mom and the man that gave her that ring.  If no photo exists to prove it, I think your sister should have it.  Good luck.

Post # 5
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1391 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t see why it should go to HIS daughter. It should pass down to one of you guys first. I think your sister should get it, I am sure it would really mean a lot to her to have it. She was the one who it seemed built the strongest connection and I don’t see why your brother’s daughter should get it in the first place.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

What if you made the agreement that it go to your sister for now, and when you bro’s daughter is old enough (or when your sister passes) it will go to her? That seems the most fair.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

It sounds to me like it would really mean something to your sister and your brother just wants it on principle.  And to be honest I REALLY don’t know why your brother’s wife is involved at all.  She gets no say on where her mother in law’s engagement ring goes.  Talk to your sister and she if she’s interested.  If so, I would think she would be most deserving.  And hopefully if your brother sees how much it would mean to her, then he will be on board too.

Post # 8
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46329 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

This is an example of why everyone should have a will that specifies where everything will go- including young people!

Too many families get caught up argueing about their parents’ possessions.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I believe all jewelry stays with the GIRL child NOT the granddaughter. Why on earth would he think HIS daughter was “entitled” to anything, I don’t care who the ring came from. I think it shoud go to your sister PERIOD.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think it should go to your sister. I don’t understand why he thinks that this ring automatically belongs to him. I would ask your sister whether she wants it and explain the situation. If she does, then it might make your brother mad, but ultimately it’s 2 to 1. Fair is fair. Good luck! Hopefully this won’t start too much drama.

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