Who should be at the bridal shower? Poll

posted 4 months ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who should attend a bridal shower?
    Just women : (21 votes)
    57 %
    Men and Women : (16 votes)
    43 %
  • Post # 2
    2546 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    We had a couples shower, people of all genders were included. It was more of a laid back garden party with food and drinks. I kind of take offense to the notion that all of the kitchen utensils, household decor and supplies that are usually received at showers are for mostly the bride and not the groom.. but that’s just me. 

    Post # 3
    312 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2019

    Lately when I’ve been to women-only showers or couples showers they’ve been the same, just basically a get together with food, hanging out, and opening presents. I haven’t had to play a game at a shower for years. 

    Post # 4
    5783 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I always prefer couples/ non gendered showers. 

    Post # 5
    85 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2019 - Baltimore, MD

    sapphire27 :  As the non-cook in our household, I agree. My fiance would be way more excited to receive kitchen gadgets and appliances, whereas I don’t care either way.

    Post # 6
    2038 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    Personally, I like showers with only women if I have to go. 

    This is only from my experiance so please take it with a grain of salt. Men never cared when I went to couple showers. They always looked bored, and tended to almost make fun of some of the gifts. It really turned me off the the idea. 

    However, if the guy is really into it, then why not? It’s his day as well! 

    My shower had women only. It worked perfect for me. 

    Post # 7
    2546 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    MrsWiggles :  I definitely see your argument there.

    I know that a lot of bees have very strong negative opinions on this, but we actually didn’t sit around and open all of the gifts in front of the guests (because we figured that more than 50% of our guest list would find this awful to sit through). It was more like a party in which some people chose to bring gifts to. Like the wedding reception was!

    Post # 8
    1922 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    magpiemae :  We had a couples shower at a local brewery with lawn games. Loved it! No cheesy bridal shower games.

    We also didn’t open gifts at the shower. I agree, never a fan of sitting and watching any gift opening. 


    Post # 9
    1481 posts
    Bumble bee

    Make it a bbq theme and have the guys and women invited. Not that hard. Have beer and food the guys will like and keep the shower to 2 hrs max. 


    magpiemae :  

    Post # 10
    799 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I didn’t want a shower for this reason.

    My best friend did a couples BBQ. We all worn old bridesmaids or prom gowns, guys wore suits and whatnot, and had a enormous amount of fun. No games, and gifts were optional (most brought).

    Post # 11
    372 posts
    Helper bee

    I get that the bridal shower seems outdated and exclusive to just have women, but that’s the whole point of it. If you don’t like the idea of that, then just don’t have a shower. Having a party with guests of the both the bride and groom just seems like a second wedding reception.

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