(Closed) Who should be happy? Me or everyone else??? Help!

posted 7 years ago in Money
  • poll: Who should be happy
    Make yourself happy, pay a little more and get what you want : (30 votes)
    83 %
    Make everyone else happy, save money and make life easy : (5 votes)
    14 %
    Other-explain below : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    540 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would say go with what you want. We are getting married at an old old home that my fiancé’s family owns. They wanted us to get married in the lawn and I really wanted to get married in the trees. We could have easily said “whatever you want.” They do own it, and are paying for rentals, but we explained why we really wanted it that way and they agreed. I think they just thought they knew best but once we talked about it they saw that it really was our day and it should be how we want it.
    I would have a conversation with the people who are saying you should do it differently than how you see it, and ultimately do what you want. Hopefully they will agree, and if not at least you will have it they way that you see is best for your day.

    Post # 4
    Member
    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would go with what you want, I wish I had done everything I wanted from the beginning.  Otherwise, is it worth it to please others?  For me, wedding planning taught me- it isn’t!

    Post # 5
    Member
    1267 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think the actual ceremony site is quite an important aspect and you should do whichever one makes you happier.  In a ‘pick your battles’ type of mindset, this is one to pick. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    277 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    If you can spare the money, do what you want.  I would tell everyone the tent also a plan B if the weather is bad (not that you hope it will but it’s always good to have a plan b).

    Post # 7
    Member
    200 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    What you want

    Post # 8
    Member
    4355 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It’s your (and your FH’s) day so make yourself happy! And I was going to say that the tent will be great if it does rain, as Shoppingdixie said.

    Post # 9
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    1559 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I suggest doing it your way, not because it is the way you want it, but because it IS the more practical option. Ever heard of weather? If the weather gets nasty, you will need the tents anyway, and then you’ll be stuck paying for them last minute (Unless you have an indoor backup venue).

    Your family is suggesting you do it the way your sister did b/c it turned out great and there was no problem. Hate to break it to them, but you might not get so lucky. Plan for the worst, hope for the best. 

    Maybe explain to your family that you want the tent in case of weather, also. That might make them think a little more sensibly. 

    Post # 11
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    1235 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I made sure that I got what was important to be and everything else I got what I would feel better about when all was said and done. If there was somebody who was close to me that was going to be really not happy about something that wasn’t majorly important, I would feel terrible. So I would say that if it is important to you do what you want but if you can give a little and still be happy, then do that.

    Post # 12
    Member
    6597 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    If you can afford it – do what you want!

    Post # 13
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    1526 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    It is your wedding. You only get one shop at it. I am a firm believer in doing what you want. Everyone else will have or already had their shot at a wedding. Do what makes you happy.

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