Post # 1
I am in a situation. It’s time to put a deposit on our rentals and I am not sure what to do. I am having an outdoor wedding ceremony and reception (at the same location). I don’t know whether I should make myself happy, even if it means more money, or if I should make everyone else happy and save the money.
So I would love to have tents set up on the lawn for the reception and then do the ceremony under the trees where it is shaded. It’s how I envision the wedding and it is also the more costly option. Probably $1,500 more. The other option is to please everyone else by doing the reception in the trees (where its shaded) and do the ceremony on the grass. This is also how my sister in-laws wedding was set up and I really want to do something different. Its cheaper and probably wiser, but I feel like I am copying her wedding and I do not want to do that. I want my wedding to be different.
So what do I do? Pay more and ultimately be happy or save money and settle? What would you do? So far I haven’t been too much of a bridezilla, but I am very set on trying to make my wedding different than my sis in-law’s wedding. Plus, I need to be a deposit on rentals this week, ekk!
Thanks for your help Bees!!
Post # 3
I would say go with what you want. We are getting married at an old old home that my fiancé’s family owns. They wanted us to get married in the lawn and I really wanted to get married in the trees. We could have easily said “whatever you want.” They do own it, and are paying for rentals, but we explained why we really wanted it that way and they agreed. I think they just thought they knew best but once we talked about it they saw that it really was our day and it should be how we want it.
I would have a conversation with the people who are saying you should do it differently than how you see it, and ultimately do what you want. Hopefully they will agree, and if not at least you will have it they way that you see is best for your day.
Post # 4
I would go with what you want, I wish I had done everything I wanted from the beginning. Otherwise, is it worth it to please others? For me, wedding planning taught me- it isn’t!
Post # 5
I think the actual ceremony site is quite an important aspect and you should do whichever one makes you happier. In a ‘pick your battles’ type of mindset, this is one to pick.
Post # 6
If you can spare the money, do what you want. I would tell everyone the tent also a plan B if the weather is bad (not that you hope it will but it’s always good to have a plan b).
Post # 8
It’s your (and your FH’s) day so make yourself happy! And I was going to say that the tent will be great if it does rain, as Shoppingdixie said.
Post # 9
I suggest doing it your way, not because it is the way you want it, but because it IS the more practical option. Ever heard of weather? If the weather gets nasty, you will need the tents anyway, and then you’ll be stuck paying for them last minute (Unless you have an indoor backup venue).
Your family is suggesting you do it the way your sister did b/c it turned out great and there was no problem. Hate to break it to them, but you might not get so lucky. Plan for the worst, hope for the best.
Maybe explain to your family that you want the tent in case of weather, also. That might make them think a little more sensibly.
Post # 10
Good thoughts everyone. What if the weather goes bad? So having the tents is a great idea. I will probably go with what I want. Wedding planning is just so hard and stressful sometimes!
Post # 11
I made sure that I got what was important to be and everything else I got what I would feel better about when all was said and done. If there was somebody who was close to me that was going to be really not happy about something that wasn’t majorly important, I would feel terrible. So I would say that if it is important to you do what you want but if you can give a little and still be happy, then do that.
Post # 12
If you can afford it – do what you want!
Post # 13
It is your wedding. You only get one shop at it. I am a firm believer in doing what you want. Everyone else will have or already had their shot at a wedding. Do what makes you happy.