- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
It’s 3 months before the wedding and my current Maid/Matron of Honor is stepping out of the bridal party because she can’t afford her dress or any bridal party activities. That leaves me with 4 bridesmaids, one being my fiances sister and the other 3 being my cousins. One of my cousins, J, seems to have issues that she wasnt the made of honor to begin with. She felt she had the right to be made of honor because we lived together for a few years as “sisters” when we were younger however during those times and still currently we are two totally different people. She can be pushy and judgemental, which speaking of which hates my fiance after meeting him for one day over a misunderstanding she wont let go then spread a rumor saying he was abusive and everyone should be worried about me.She helped me with putting a down payment on my dress and later rubbed it in stating my Maid/Matron of Honor should have done that. My mother is pushing that she be the Maid/Matron of Honor because she lived with us and is family on her side of the bloodline but I also think it’s because her and my mom as close and my mom can have a better grasp on what’s going on in my wedding in Bridal Party.
My other cousins seem to be helpful and not bitter about anything regardless of what title they have,as long as they are in the wedding.I actually get along better with these cousins because they are more easy going like I am, however I don’t want to cause drama over who is the “favorite cousin” because I made one of them the Maid/Matron of Honor.
My fiance sister has been the most helpful bridesmaid as she checks on me,helps me and gets along with everyone.She’s also local, unlike my other bridesmaids who live an hour or more away so it’s easier to ask for help from her. However she is also broke! I’m also afraid that if I pick her it may cause drama within the family as I keep picking people who are outside of the family as Maid/Matron of Honor (current Maid/Matron of Honor is my best friend).
I’m not sure what to do it seems anyone I chose is going to create some sort of drama. I really wanted this to be a fun little girls group (I know it never happens) but it seems to be not going as well. To me it is just a title and I don’t see any of them more special than the other.I just need someone to wear the different colored dress!