Post # 1
Hi! So I don’t have a sister or close female relative. My best friend is my fiance, but he already has a role in the wedding. 😉 I just don’t have a really close friend or confidant that I feel is a clear maid of honor for me.
I was hoping you’d have some advice on who I might choose. I have 4 BMs.
Bridesmaid or Best Man1: My brother’s wife: Known 8 years. Family. Also very shallow, uninterested in me, bossy, but still family. Stay-at-home wife (no kids). Has lots of free time.
Bridesmaid or Best Man2: A friend of 2 years. Lives far away. Very sweet, but might not even make it to the wedding.
Bridesmaid or Best Man3: A friend of 5 years. Lives out of town. A bit bossy. Didn’t ask me to even be in her wedding with 5 BMs, so how can she be my MOH?
Bridesmaid or Best Man4: A new friend. Sweet, but we’re not super close.
Post # 3
If you think your new friend could become a good friend in the future, I’d go with her. The selfish part of me says take Bridesmaid or Best Man1 because you could use her for DIY’s maybe–but then she could take over. It’s a hard one.
Post # 4
I’d say don’t title any one of the women maid of honor, and ask them to share the duties of planning your shower and bachelorette party. ask someone special to give the toast, like grandma or a best guy friend.
Post # 5
I agree with engdom; there’s no need to have a Maid/Matron of Honor if you don’t see any of them in that role. It’s not uncommon to have only bridesmaids (or, conversely, co-MOHs).
Post # 6
I was thinking about not having one, but I wasn’t sure if it would be too unusual. I have a male friend in mind who would give a great speech. He’d never be a man or honor, but he’d really have a lot to say. I appreciate the insight!
Post # 7
I’m not having an Maid/Matron of Honor b/c it was too hard to choose, so I think that’s always a good option if you’re having trouble deciding! I’ve definitely seen brothers/men of honor, and I think it’s super cute too!
Post # 8
In your situation I would just go moh-less. Given your descriptions of each Bridesmaid or Best Man I don’t think any are worthy of that title, sorry hon
Post # 9
Add ‘make the guy the MOH’ to your poll 🙂
Post # 11
I agree, they might qualify as a bridesmaid, but not as a Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 12
None of them.
#1 not interested in you, #2 might not come to your wedding, #3 didn’t even have you in her wedding, #4 not super close to you
They don’t deserve the honor of the Maid/Matron of Honor role and title so just go without and it will be fine.
Post # 13
I picked your good friend far away. My best friend got married and picked me as the Maid/Matron of Honor (I live a 10hr drive away). Since you have a little less than a year, I’m sure that would be enough time for her to make travel arrangements.
Post # 14
Honestly in your situation, I wouldn’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor.. it’s just a title really, and what’s the point of singling someone out when clearly, there isn’t a reason to?