(Closed) Who should be the Best Man?

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: If the groom has a brother, should he be the best man no matter what?
    Yes, always. Family above all else : (2 votes)
    8 %
    Not if he doesn't have a close relationship with him, or he has a best friend who he's closer to : (21 votes)
    88 %
    Other : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee

    @MrsDrRose612:  To answer your question – No.

    I have 2 sisters, and neither of them is my Maid/Matron of Honor – my best friend is.  I love my sisters of course but we’re just not close.  If anything, perhaps your FH could have co-best men?

    Post # 4
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    5475 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think he should choose who he wants and that’s that… however, if he wants to appease his mom & get her to chill, he could have two best men.  His brother can have the title, but it wouldn’t change how the Wedding Party is set up or change anyone’s involvement in the bach party or speeches.

    Post # 5
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    4193 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    Nope- best man is whoever he’s closest with (and I’m pretty sure Emily Post would back me up on this one.) And siblings don’t have to be in the wedding party, also.

    And since the brother is ok with it, Future Mother-In-Law *should* be too…but I know from your other posts that drama is a bit of an understatement with her 😉

    Post # 5
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    149 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    No, I dont think it is a MUST, he whould have whomever he wants to have, as long as his brother is in the Bridal Party, I dont htink its a big deal, how does his brother feel? Did he want to be the best man? He may be relieved that he doesnt have to take on that role. If your Fiance is feeling bad it may be helpful for hime to talk to his brother baout it, if he alreayd asked his friend i dont think it would be okay tpo change now anyways!

    Post # 7
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    1866 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @MrsDrRose612:  He shouldn’t feel bad at all.  The Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t sound too fabulous….eek….I think it’s impossible to please everyone w/r/t a wedding, but you two should do what’s best for you and other people should just be happy for you. 

    Post # 11
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    2359 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    i have 2 best friends, and 2 sisters in my party… my one best friend is my Maid/Matron of Honor i’ve known her for 14 years…. and my sisters completely understood and didn’t mind… plus, i couldn’t pick between my 2 sisters

    Post # 11
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    5475 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Poor thing… I think your Fiance & his brother need to tell Future Mother-In-Law to shut it.  Or just have him be co-best man with no planning responsibilities, no speech, no pressure.  Just the title by his name in the wedding program.  Drawback of that is that Future Mother-In-Law gets her way :/

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