(Closed) who should hold the checks?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We had a day of coordinator who handled this for us. Assuming you don’t have one, I think having your dad take care of it would be fine too.

Post # 4
10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I handled all final payments myself. They were all done at the end of the night and I only had to distribute checks to 3 vendors so it wasn’t really a big deal. I just had the envelopes in my purse that a family member was holding.

Post # 5
13010 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you have a Day of Coordinator, that would be easiest.  If not, pick a reliable friend or family member who can do it if payment is required before services begin, or, like @CaitMarae did, handle it at the end of the night.  

Post # 6
1319 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Our Day of Coordinator did it. My SIL was my assistant, and she ran the check to my caterer.

Post # 7
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Funny you posted this because I was thinking about this on my way to work this morning and was also thinking of asking my dad to hold any vendor payments.

Post # 8
519 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My dad paid everyone. It was only a couple vendors, so really not a hassle for him. Plus, it was his money, so I’m not sure he would have wanted anyone else taking care of it 🙂 

Post # 9
1304 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My Maid/Matron of Honor insisted on doing it for us.  She had some hangup about it being bad luck to handle money on your wedding day.  She’s neither religious nor superstitious so I’m not sure where that came from.

Post # 10
2889 posts
Sugar bee

I’m pretty sure we delivered final payments in the daysl eading up to the wedding so as to not deal with this. We had a final meeting with our DJ to go over songs and deliver the ckeck 2 days before the wedding. We gave the caterer our CC and she sent the final invoice after the wedding and then we okayed the charge. The photographer and florist came to the house and got their checks then. I would highly recommend paying in advance if possible provided you have contracts and trust your vendors to show up if prepaid. 

Post # 11
1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Traditionally, it was the Best Man’s responsibilities to hold the envelopes for vendor payments and ensure that the vendors get their envelope (prepared by the bride and groom), now most people have wedding planners or day of coordiators to take care of this. If you are not having a wedding planner/day of coordinatior, have a responsible adult take care of this, like the best man.


Post # 12
1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My wedding coordinator will handle that.  Though, to be honest, I’m so OCD about things that I will probably stand with her while she does it.  LOL


Post # 13
411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@futuremrste:  I couldn’t help laughing at “have a responsible adult take care of this, like the best man.”  Clearly you’ve never met my Fi’s best man! “Responsible adult” would be optimistic on the best of days Wink

I think my dad will be in charge of all this as well. Even though I’m paying for a lot of things at the wedding, I’m just going to write one fat check to my pops and let him handle all the vendors. I think that’s almost as great a gift as the money itself!!!

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